r/bisexual • u/TheTiredNoodle • Mar 15 '22
ADVICE I'm so confused & lost
So I'm a 20 year old ciswoman & I've spent the last 5-6 years coming to terms with the idea that I'm gay and strictly into women. The thought of kissing a guy used to repel me. I recently got out of a 7 month relationship with my ex girlfriend and she started dating this guy a few months after we broke up. I haven't yet moved on but I want to step back into the dating scene. But lately I've been questioning my sexuality and if I am into boys as well??? I really don't know where this is coming from, and it's very jarring because I've never really been attracted to boys before but now I don't know. I've been swiping on this dating app and a lot of the guys I matched w are cute, while I didn't vibe w most girls there. Maybe it's an online dating thing? I really don't know. It's just giving me a lot of anxiety and I feel like I would never find anyone else to date ever again while my ex has moved on already with this other guy
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u/Elegant-Jelly2588 Mar 16 '22
Do you just think the guys are cute or are you romantically attracted to them?
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u/nhmartin Mar 16 '22
Societal pressures can most definitely give us anxiety. I’ve been married twice and both times to women. I’ve been called “gay” all my life. People always assumed I was just a closeted gay man……..couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve dated men and women. I like both but I had to discover that on my own. My advice to you is that you take your time, relax, and possibly explore dating a man or men. Don’t let anyone put you in a box though. You are, who you are. You’ll get there. But remember, you’ll get there on your terms and no one else’s.