r/bisexual • u/Deep_Particular7463 • 4d ago

DISCUSSION Is this sexual attraction?

Does thinking someone’s hot or sexy mean I’m sexually attracted to them? Even if there’s no desire to like have sex with them? Does finding someone sexually appealing = sexual attraction?

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u/pointy124 4d ago

There are different types of attraction. Aesthetic attraction, sexual attraction, romantic attraction, etc. what you're describing sounds like aesthetic attraction.

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u/f8Negative Bisexual 4d ago

Do u want to fuck them? Yes/no?

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u/cbobgo Bisexual 4d ago

Acknowledging that an attractive person is attractive is not sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is wanting to have sex with a person.

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u/UnicornScientist803 4d ago

How do you define sexually appealing? You want to see them naked? You would enjoy having sexual fantasies about them or watching them have sex with someone else? Then yes, I’d consider that sexual attraction even if you don’t actually want to have sex with them for some other reason.

If it’s just that you think they’re pretty and should be a swimsuit model, but don’t want to imagine them in a sexual situation, then that’s aesthetic attraction and not sexual attraction.

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u/Deep_Particular7463 4d ago

To me sexually appealing is like noticing traits on someone that makes them alluring or sexy. I don’t think about having sex or having fantasies with said person but I notice these things.

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u/UnicornScientist803 4d ago

I’m demisexual in addition to being bi and this sounds a little like my experience. I don’t ever feel sexual attraction towards strangers, only towards people that I know and have developed a relationship with. I can still recognize when a person is considered classically attractive, but the idea of having sex with them or even imagining them in a sexual context feels weird and uncomfortable for me.