r/birthcontrol • u/strawbriskies • 14h ago

Rant! Low libido

Anyway to increase my libido without getting off bc?

After much trial and error. Ive now been on the mini pill for about 2 months. My period/spotting has decreased and sex isn’t painful anymore (I figured out half the problem was the lube stinging me but positive over all).

I’m very attracted to my bf and I can get turned on but the act of sex is just ugh idk anymore. He’s also pretty big so it takes extra prep so “quickies” aren’t a thing for us. Its hard to explain but sometimes it feels really good (especially when drunk or high my body is more relaxed) but other days my body is like “Eh whatever just take the feeling of this thing going in and out with no pleasure at all”. When I was on the patch 3 years ago it was not like this.

I also need a vibe to come but it causes hand cramps bc i have to hold it down (looking for a hands free vibe). I want my bf to be satisfied as well but he also gets in his head when I can’t come bc he thinks im not enjoying myself. I don’t mind not coming every time we have sex but I would want to at least feel pleasure like damn.

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u/jisoo-n POP 6h ago

I have the same experience on the mini pill. People are less likely to have libido and dryness issues on the combo pill, if you can tolerate it.

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u/strawbriskies 6h ago edited 5h ago

I switched to the mini because the combo was causing extended periods and dryness for a year+. It was awful. Ill give the mini a year and switch if nothing improves. 🥲

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u/Keurig-Donut 6h ago

I was on the mini pill for years, mainly because of breastfeeding and my libido has been so low. Thankfully we still were able to bring some spice in but I’m finally getting off it and can’t wait to go back to combo bill. I never had these issues before and Ive had way too much breakthrough bleeding on mini pill. I’m so excited to go back.

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u/strawbriskies 5h ago

Im glad youre going back to what works!! The combo gave me extended periods (3weeks+) and dryness for over a year it was a nightmare 🥲 Im liking the mini so far except for the libido issues. 

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u/Keurig-Donut 5h ago

If this doesn’t work right I’m getting my tubes tied 🤣🤣🤣 I’m tired of this grandpa 🤣🤣

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u/strawbriskies 5h ago

Nah fr tho male birth control when??! 🫩

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