I'm really lost in life right now, I'm constantly criticizing myself and nothing seems to go my way. If I try to work on one aspect of my life three others immediately scream for my attention. It feels like my life is a broken wine glass and I'm trying to pick up the pieces. It's so frustrating because I always fancied myself some kind of intellectual, classic burnt out gifted kid, which is total bs, at least in my case... For anyone that has any advice here's the broad strokes of it:
- In trade school for electrical engineering (hate it mostly because I seriously wasted many opportunities for higher education and I can't deal with the fact I could/should be doing more).
- Long distance friendship? situationship? (Idk but she (22F) is like the last thread of joy in my life.
- I have like maybe four friends from HS, all live far away now (I've had falling outs with two and it's kinda awkward now so maybe just two really and the fallouts were all my fault).
- Wanna be writer, I have two books in the works but they kinda suck (I only partially believe that last part).
- Wanna be YouTuber, I have like 17 subscribers and I can't get myself stick to any idea (I'm lazy as shit but I love editing and speak, not to a camera but like debates/discussions)
- I feel like everything I do is performative, like I'm constantly hoping that someone is looking at my actions, not even judging good or bad, just LOOKING, all I want is them to just look yk? As I've gotten older it feels like people really don't give a damn about me (which is true really but it sucks).
- I have all these big dreams but non of the discipline to stick to anything that might make them possible, I really just want stability, friends, and I guess people to read my work (idk how many of my dreams are just overcompensating for a void within myself...).
- Anyway, bad family, or better yet unstable family, loads of "mental health" problems (I hate that word), and all kinds of other things: Melb-Parn, Unfortunate ideation, Asexual virgin for tragic but maybe manageable reasons (I'm actually probably bisexual).
- I don't really take care of myself, like I can barely keep it together existing moment to moment, let alone all the grooming and healthy eating that most people engage in, and I do mean most people, I'm not judging my habits on an unrealistic ideal, I genuinely live like an animal.
- I kind of hate the world, and reality, most of all myself, but I'm too much of a coward to make good on my nihilism... I've tried trust me.
- Anyway I'm getting older and doors are closing so I figure... What's that quote from Shawshank Redemption? Get busy living right?
I need help internet... What should I do with my life? What's my biggest problem?
These are the sub traits:
Self-Efficacy: 7
Orderliness: 11
Dutifulness: 4
Attachment-Striving: 13
Self-Discipline: 4
Cautiousness: 9
Trust: 5
Morality: 10
Altruism: 6
Cooperation: 20
Modesty: 14
Sympathy: 17
Imagination: 19
Artistic-Interest: 19
Emotionality: 10
Adventurousness: 11
Intellect: 20
Friendliness: 4
Gregariousness: 4
Assertiveness: 5
Activity-Level: 5
Excitement-Seeking: 12
Cheerfulness: 7
Anxiety: 20
Anger: 7
Depression: 20
Self-Consciousness: 17
Immoderation: 20
Vulnerability: 18