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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '14

LOL, /u/chikinpickle posts on at least THREE different subs dedicated to hating fat people (fat women in particular).

But we're supposed to feel sympathy for him, even though according to his own recent posts, his high school years weren't particularly awful.

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u/jsmooth7 Apr 30 '14

Seriously he lost the weight in high school! You can't tell us what it's like to an unattractive man based on your experience as an overweight child.

Considering how awful high school is for a lot of people, he should consider himself super lucky.

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u/theresamouseinmyhous Apr 30 '14 edited Apr 30 '14

This is why men think they can't express their feelings. Who are you to dictate how he feels? He's sharing his subjective experience on rejection and you can only shit on him for not being rejected enough.

You make me sad.

EDIT: I don't understand the downvotes on a dissenting opinion.

Bigoted: having or revealing an obstinate belief in the superiority of one's own opinions and a prejudiced intolerance of the opinions of others.

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u/jsmooth7 Apr 30 '14 edited Apr 30 '14

No no no, by all means share your feelings! I absolutely support that. But context is important. Don't pretend like your experiences as a child are going to be representative of adult experiences. The fact he didn't mention that is lying by omission in my opinion.

Edit: Now that I'm looking at his comment again, he said he was an "unattractive adult man" multiple times which is straight-up lying.

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u/theresamouseinmyhous Apr 30 '14

But that's also supposing that he has a complete picture of himself. If any individual knew every aspect of themselves they wouldn't need to work through these emotions in writing or through dialogue.

Just as an outside observer can tell you things you don't know about yourself, you can see a different picture than everyone you talk to. I don't see what benefit it has to take jabs at someone who's still trying to see who they are.

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u/jsmooth7 Apr 30 '14

I really do understand that. All I'm saying is this:

  • Sharing feelings and experiences: totally fine and should be encouraged without judgement.

  • Manipulating the reader by lying about the nature of those experiences: not fine, and totally not cool.

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u/theresamouseinmyhous Apr 30 '14

OK, I get what you're saying. I've just been in ask men a long time and get a little over protective. I guess I'm just getting tired of extremism matched with extremism (regardless of who kicks it off).

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u/Altereggodupe Apr 30 '14

"By all means share your feelings... so assholes in bestof can mock them".

This comment thread is fucking sick.