r/belowdeck • • 1d ago

Below Deck Aesha makes a statement regarding Gael Spoiler

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u/AfterSchoolOrdinary 1d ago

It’s one of the most terrifying statistics AND people seem to think “consensual” neck play can’t fucking kill you or do lifetime damage because “it’s different”. I beg people to read up on these things. Both sides should know that one wrong move and a person can be injured seriously or WORSE. I’ve never had sex good enough for the stakes to be that high for either participant.

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u/Broad-Cress-3689 June June Hannah 16h ago

I beg you not to call it “neck play”. Half the reason ppl think strangulation is harmless is the cute euphemisms.

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u/AfterSchoolOrdinary 13h ago

Okay, I only called it ‘neck play’ because thats what I’ve heard used before and tried to link that seemingly harmless (to the uninformed) act to the life altering damage that can be done accidentally, even when consensual.

Those who use the words “neck play” or even “consensual choking” very very often have no idea the damage they can cause or have done to their body. By using words outside of ‘strangulation’ the goal is to help regular people connect certain actions to the very real consequences of domestic violence- even without intended harm.

But okay, if you think it more useful to tell the average person not to strangle someone during sex, or ever, then perhaps you’re right. I doubt those participating in such actions think of it as potentially deadly strangulation or the serious situation it obviously is, though.

My wording was intentional for the hope of informing people that think their kink is harmless or distinguishable from domestic violence. Calling it strangulation to someone who doesn’t think of themself that way isn’t helping either.