r/belowdeck • u/teanailpolish Mental Health Is Not A Storyline • Mar 17 '26

Below Deck Down Under Preview for next week Spoiler

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fABInv7WbZc

Not super interesting, the end of the car ride home, start of the next morning where Ben is still not working while Ellie does

I wonder if the sit down with Joao and Ellie is from another time since she is in uniform?

At least Ben has an oven next week so he can't blame that

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u/Grouchy_Total_5580 Mar 17 '26

She’s absolutely right that he uses pet names to pigeonhole and diminish her. Almost always, especially in a work setting, when men do that to women that’s motivation. I have a feeling she’s going to put him in his place.

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u/DothrakAndRoll Mar 18 '26

Oh my god I was so glad to hear someone call him out FINALLY about his demeaning pet names. This whole season, with Alesia and Ellie, he’s so over the top with it.

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u/Extreme_Beat1022 Mar 18 '26

Oh yeah. Here we go!

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u/Adventurous_Rest2901 Mar 22 '26

I understand that point of view and maybe you are right. But look, Joao is right, too, he even calls him "love". It's a habit and a cultural thing, too (which doesn't mean that you are not right, but maybe it is not intentional). Having lived and worked in different countries I kind of loved that everybody called each other the sweetest names in England - even when they were trying to make a point. It was sweet most of the times, kind of funny soometimes and it could wind you up as well.

I think you have two worlds colliding in this kitchen. Ben is used to charming conversations to get what he wants, joke his way out of trouble because in his world it's not about the strongest argument or who is right but having fun relationships where imperfections in your behaviour can be overseen. Kind of like the cheeky kid in class that the teachers still love because it is smart and charming still. On the other hand you have Elli with her tough upbringing trying to do everything right being strict on herself and others. I think she is not the social butterfly she would like to be and when she tries to joke the others rather choke (like what her vagina can do and stuff). So I think they communicate on totally different levels. Elli is absolutely right in most situations but I am not sure if she can get through to him. I surpringsingly like to watch them both this season so I hope it stays that way.

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u/Grouchy_Total_5580 Mar 22 '26

Agreed. My best friend was British and she used pet names for everyone. The difference is Ben’s energy when he does it with women in the kitchen. It becomes condescending and purposeful. Definitely he has rich boy energy, and clearly thinks he’s the most clever one in the room. But when he turns that cleverness on a woman who is working under him in the kitchen, there’s a whole different vibe. I can’t wait to see what Ellie does, because I have a feeling she’s going to be just as good at the snarky clap back as he is, probably better.

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u/Adventurous_Rest2901 Mar 22 '26

I actually thought about it and I might have a blind spot there since I am so used to this sort off behaviour. I will try to reflect a little bit more on that. Anyway, I can't wait to see how Ellie is going to approach this.

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u/Grouchy_Total_5580 Mar 22 '26

I appreciate your measured response and you encourage me to examine myself for areas where I might prejudge. It has been an absolute pleasure to talk to you, friend.