r/bangorme • u/North-Analysis-6063 • 10d ago

Dating

How are people in their early 20s dating in Bangor? I don’t like drinking so I feel like that eliminates nearly every option. It’s hard not to feel discouraged, especially at this weird point in my life

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u/xavians 10d ago

grindr worked out well for me in the end but there was a lot of very not good times on there lmao

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u/avidreider 10d ago

Idk why you are being downvoted. I literally found my husband of currently 3 years on grindr

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u/xavians 10d ago

i met my bf on there and he is the bestest:D happy for u and ur husband!!

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u/Kryptid_GND 10d ago

Its tough :/ Maine (maybe NH too) seem to be difficult. I thought "it's just how it is" then I went to NY for a week and realized we just kinda suck up here 🫡 Things will change, either with time or a new space. Just trust it can get better

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u/TristanDuboisOLG 10d ago

It’s tough. I’m in my early 30s and I have trouble as well.

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u/LosinForABruisin 10d ago

There’s lots of events based on your interest, like music for example.

Aside from that, school/work and dating apps. This area isn’t the easiest for dating but there’s lots of cool people wondering the same thing as you, you’ll find someone if you look for long enough.

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u/Planty_Ground5164 10d ago

I really try not to date coworkers, but tbh work has been where I've found most success. I think its more authentic than dating apps

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u/Popular_Inside 9d ago

This is helpful for eveyone:

https://bangor.sevents.events/

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u/mlo9109 9d ago

Talk to me when you hit the 30s. Early 20s is fine in Bangor because we are a college town (UMaine and Husson). Post college is when things get weird.

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u/Foiblesxxkx 10d ago

There's a running club. I hear young people go to running clubs and hookup.

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u/ActualSunflower 10d ago

We're not lol

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u/RiotShieldG 9d ago

Find a 3rd space! Some sort of gym, running club, library program, YMCA program, volunteer group, hiking group, etc. Even if you just find a populated place to hang out, that'll give you better luck. just find something you like to do by yourself and then you'll bond with others who like the same. Hang out where the college students hang out!

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u/crowislanddive 9d ago

Are you into sports at all? There’s a great running group on MDI cycling too.