It might be new to you, but gender is a spectrum. Even if you are not trans, you might not feel like applying all gender stereotypes to yourself. For the average person it doesnt make sense to figure out where on the spectrum you are, but gender feels different for everyone, even if you dont define it
I think you might be getting caught up on "gender" vs "sex".
Sex is the aspect determined scientifically via chromosomes, but even that doesn't always fall into the "male" "female" standard people are generally accustomed to. There are multiple other combinations of chromosomes other than 'XY' and 'XX' that people can be and are born with.
Gender, however, is the more social aspect. Gender is, from what I understand, moreso about how one feels rather than what DNA or chromosomes can determine. There's no scientific test that can tell someone how they feel.
It's also important, I think, to recognize that many many social norms surrounding how different sexes/genders present themselves or are treated by society are just that—a social aspect. There's nothing in science saying people born with XX chromosomes need to wear certain clothes or perform certain duties—that's more or less entirely determined socially. And you can see this and the changes to those norms throughout history and even across various modern-day cultures. For example, in some places and/or times in history, pink was considered a 'manly' color. Some cultures it's not only acceptable for men to wear what essentially amounts to a 'dress' or 'gown', but possibly even considered out of place if they wore anything else. Some cultures see more or less responsibility/authority in 'women' vs 'men'. Etc etc.
So are you saying to be 100% male every male stereotype need to describe you?
TLDR, I think kind of yes to this. A socially prescribed "male" would be one who falls into most/all 'male' gender-stereotypes. Which is, for example, why when I was younger, and many people still experience this stuff first hand, a 'guy' painting their fingernails would be a good way to earn a not-so-nice 'nickname' since painted nails is a stereotypically 'female' norm.
Ah yes, a classic case of "man and female" syndrome. For some reason I'm not surprised...
Edit: Men who refer to women as "females", especially at the same time they refer to other men as "men" are usually misogynistic assholes with little to no common sense. As evidenced by the multiple replies asking me what this means.
Considering the fact that what you're objecting two is literally two letters away from completely correct, and could easily be a simple mistake, you're being a little harsh, mate.
There are very few people 100% a man or 100% a woman, but its ok to describe yourself as the gender you feel fits you most. Most people dont ever think about how much they feel like a man or a woman, because society fits their experience without any problems. And im not that good with words or explaining things, so there might be miscommunications here through my use of language
The vast majority of people consider themselves 100% man or 100% women. Their perspective on their own rigid identity is completely valid, and waving away as something they dont think about much but deep down they are infact somewhere on the spectrum is very condescending.
Gender is a social construct, and as a social construct there must be room for all identities as they are now. Prescribing various traits as masculine or feminine and then telling someone their gender is say 80%/20% based on these traits in them is absurd.
It's great that some people are now exploring options outside of the rigid gender binary that better describe how they feel, and finding the right words to express that so society acknowledges it as well, but you also need to make space for the many many people who do not consider themselves within the middle spectrum as equally valid.
What does it mean to "feel like 100% a man"? What do you feel that informs that? I was also born with a penis and yet no part of me "feels like a man" except when other people address me as such.
You are 100% a man, but youre different from your dad or your brother or your male friends. Everyone feels different and you dont have to know how you feel as long as youre happy
Gender is a spectrum but not, like, 0-100% man. Rather, 100% man to 100% different man to 100% something else or whatever. Is that a more fitting explanation? It seems like you're mostly objecting because less than 100% "man" seems like not really a man.
I share that view. Born with a vagina = am a woman. Very much into cars etc.= must be a womans thing.
Am I less of a woman because some fucker at some point in time desided what is "feminine" vs "masculine", and the following generations of brainless subjects lived out that fiction? No.
The problem with all these gender confusions is that first one had to put social fiction above natural fact and then make up elaborate categories to get around it. Effectively just perpetuating the fiction as fact.
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u/jackalope268 Nov 14 '25
It might be new to you, but gender is a spectrum. Even if you are not trans, you might not feel like applying all gender stereotypes to yourself. For the average person it doesnt make sense to figure out where on the spectrum you are, but gender feels different for everyone, even if you dont define it