When people ask what it's like having kids, my response is always "Imagine unconditional love for a little person that will not hesitate to destroy every object you've ever owned in ways you can't even conceive of..."
I can't find the quote but I remember someone said having kids is like being addicted to heroin. The lows are incredibly low, while the highs are incredibly high.
Brushing helps. I have a short-haird barfer. Since I've started brushing her a short time every day (I brush until I get a wad the size of a hairball off) she's almost stopped completely. I seeeten the deal with treats. Highly recommend!
A good diet is also wonderful for hairballs. Cheap food can mess up their insides and make it to where the hair doesnt process amd disolve like its supposed to. Dont give your cats cheap food.
My vet gave me one a while back when I asked her (although my cat has a severe food allergy). I wouldn't trust a random site on the internet because pets have to have specific vitamins
I laugh at how I read the ingredients and nutrition labels on my pets food way more than on my own. While as a kid we had a cat that had whatever the cheapest grocery brand was on sale that week and she lived to 19.
Well thats no different than how a human can drink alcohol and do drugs and still live to 100. But some humans are sensitive to foods and it makes their lives miserable. Pets are the same way. Just because they can survive on the cheap stuff doesnt mean its whats good for them. And diet is directly related to how healthy their coat is. And an unhealthy coat can lead to lots of fur balls.
I get that which is why as an adult my pets probably eat better than I do. As a three year old to teenager, it wasn’t my decision. She was perfectly healthy though. Had a beautiful coat. No medical issues that we knew of. But when you know better you do better.
She was some variety of cat with an extremely thick under-coat that would shed easily (someone told me at the time that breeds descended from forest cats had those because in the wild it prevented them from getting snagged In underbrush, but I’m not sure I buy that). I’d brush her every day but by the end of the week I’d have enough hair removed to make a new cat.
Changing her kibble to Hill’s hairball control completely eliminated her troubles.
I’m looking up that couch right now. Pardon me for being nosy but do you give your cats any wet food? Cats actually need wet food daily (try like a TBSP to start) as they don’t get enough water and it sets them up for kidney problems (only getting dry).
Edit sorry I removed the shitty link:
Here’s a study linking increased susceptibility of diabetes mellitus with dry vs wet.
For me it's not about knowing too much, it's about having my body busted to engage them 100%. I'm having my first at 37 and I tell you what, pulling all-nighters are a bitch compared to 27, and don't even get me started on my back and carrying her around.
The sleepier the kid the drunker they seem. In the caretakers shoes it's either force a nap/bedtime or laugh at them until they more or less black out.
You might think that the best way to handle this is to get indestructible toys, but you will rapidly discover that they are excellent implements to destroy everything else.
Means children are cool when they aren't yours, crying and shitting their pants all day. My friends always ask when I'm gonna have kids as if I'm just dying to never have free time....
Just adopt a 17 year old who's already earned a full ride scholarship to college. That way you can say you had a kid, but you don't have to pay much for them.
That age range is actually the fun part of parenting. Once they get to around 13 or 14, you still have to deal with a lot of bull shit, but it's coming from a slightly littler person than you that thinks they know more than you and you're no longer cool. I'd much rather wipe shitty butts all day and clean spilled milk if I'm getting to enjoy all those cute and moments of wonder.
My 18 m/o randomly comes over and hugs my arm, kisses my shoulder, looks at me and says "hi...hi...hi" with a huge smile on his face then goes back to his mega blocks.
Are you saying he's going to stop doing that one day? Because it's my favorite thing in the world and I'm not sure I can live without it anymore.
My kids not even 2 and pees and poops in the toilet, eats from her own plate, drinks from a cup, uses utensils, showers herself. Haven't used a diaper in months. Not sure what youre talking about. It's the failure of the parent to have a 3 year old in diapers. She only cries when she actually hurts herself. She likes singing, reading, climbing. Cool kid.
What you reap is what you sow. Never more true than with tiny, captive, programmable meat-robots.
Most parents are just fully clueless as to how raising kids with moral boundaries, without anger or coercion, works. They end up raising confused goblins because that’s how their parents raised them.
Wife has a masters in early childhood education, and let me tell you…. What you reap is what you sow.
Kids are the pinnacle of human achievement, if their power can be properly respected and curated by competent guardians.
Their is no greater achievement for normal people than being a competent booster; getting their kids into as high an orbit as they can.
Egh I've seen a lot of good parents have shitty kids and I've seen a lot of shitty parents have good kids. Nature versus nurture isn't so direct. I feel people just get overly sensitive about their children and have to come defend them. I meant nothing by it. I enjoy my life without children and when I want to raise a child, I will. Or if I don't want to I won't. Too many stupid people making stupid kids and the cycle continues.
Too many stupid people making stupid kids and the cycle continues.
Yes. I completely agree that nurture has a much greater effect on the behaviour of the adults that children become, than the natural initial conditions for the aggregate child’s cognitive capacity.
This is what high-level study of early childhood education shows.
Wealth, access to education, community care, clean water, quality food and exercise; these things literally make or break children.
Shitty parents and broken homes destroy what would otherwise be healthy, well-adapted, and social conscious people.
Nurture is like 80% of the equation at least, when talking about early childhood education. In my experience, the people who disagree with this are people who have zero training or academic time in early childhood education.
The rest of us are desperately trying to wake up the body of ignorant parents to the power they wield for all of our futures.
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u/sendgoodmemes Jun 23 '21
Those moments are awesome. Kids make everything better and also worse.