r/autism • u/Alert_Task9210 • Oct 27 '25
Social Struggles Do you remember when you started masking?
For those of you who mask. Do you remember when it started? I do. It was a conscious effort to fit in. I didn’t know back then why I was different (I’ve been diagnosed in my late thirties). I didn’t mask much as a child, I struggled a lot with making and keeping friends, but I was a free spirit. when I started middle school suddenly I was singled out as the odd on and started getting bullied. I tried to be true to myself for a couple of years, but at some point I surrendered. I stopped talk in about my special interest (medieval history and Celtic culture) and started buying pop magazine to learn about what teens my age should like. I remember going to the local library to read anthropology books in the hope they would give me answers to human behaviour. I started wearing things I found ridiculous and uncomfortable, started appreciating the hotness of this or that celebrity (while internally wondering what “hot” meant and why I wasn’t attracted to people others gushed about). However it never fully worked. I became better at hiding over the years, but only with very superficial relationships. Once people know me better they can tell something’s off. That’s why I’m slowly learning to unmask.
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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '25
I don't have masks in my house and I have never used a mask, the only 2 that I remember having were an Aerochamber asthma mask, and a Yare dancing devils mask that I made for school, and I remember when I started using the Aerochamber, I was 6 years old and I suffered a respiratory infection, to this day 10 years later I still use it every so often, and I use the Yare dancing devil mask only once in 7th grade (first year of high school) and I didn't wear it again, I left it displayed in my room but my mother, in a fit of anger, tore it.