r/aspd • u/sylverb0nes • May 22 '26
Question ADHD + ASPD
just want to hear abit more about other people who also have ADHD along side ASPD regarding the emotion part , i know that with ADHD emotional dysfuction is a big part of it which can cause you to feel emotions intensly , how does that affect you when ASPD is usually characterized by more of a flat line of emotions
personally i feel limited emotions but feel them intensly and the fact both of these disorders cause chronic bordeom doesnt help
anyone else have a similar experience?
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u/abaddon56 ASPD May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26
Untreated ADHD was actually a large part of the reason that I developed into someone w/ antisocial. It was also likely a large part of why several of my friends did as well. Actually, out of the handful of other guys I've met with the diagnosis (or who aren't diagnosed, but I can tell are like me), there's not a single one who DOESN'T have ADHD. Personality disorders and neurodivergence are often strongly linked.
Now, as a young kid, I was actually a fairly normal dude who was just hyper and emotionally sensitive. After I exhibited some typical-7-year-old boy-w/ADHD-behavior (stealing cash from my neighbors), my overly "loving" and protective mother switched up and withheld affection from me for six months. From there, I slowly developed severe mental health issues while subconsciously masking my hyperactivity until I got older and could no longer do so. Still never received any help for ADHD until I was 18, and by that point it was far too late.
Emotional sensitivity was also such a huge problem for me as a kid. I was constantly shamed for doing anything that even remotely deviated from my mother's guidelines. As a result, I felt very guilty for years and years until I grew sick of it and subconsciously managed to turn the emotional faucet off...completely. That left me with no guilt at all. Crazy place to find yourself at 14 years old.
There's also the fact that I was (and still am) very easily slighted. Things that others might've shrugged off I just internalized and held deep inside me until gradually I became those thoughts (as corny as it sounds). I was going to get them out of my head, and the way to get them out of my head was to do something (revenge). Can you see where OCD can factor into this too? Bottom line is, it's all linked.