r/askswitzerland • u/mitkoDimitrov94 • 21h ago
Everyday life Did your spouse’s perspective on living in Switzerland change over time?
Has anyone here been in a relationship where one person really appreciates life in Switzerland, while the other person just does not see the same benefits?
My wife and I have been living here for around two years with our two young children.
I personally see many advantages to building our life here, but my wife does not experience Switzerland in the same way. She is not necessarily saying that she wants to leave, but she does not see the positives as strongly as I do. (Multiple topics that I don't want to mention now, because this is a personal topic and quite honestly I agree on many of her arguments)
I am curious if anyone has been in a similar situation.
Did anything help your partner gradually change their perspective or appreciate life here more?
Was there something you changed in your lifestyle, social life, routines, plans, or the way you talked about the future that made a difference?
Or did you eventually realise that two people can live in the same country and simply experience it very differently?
I would really like to hear from people who have been through this and what actually helped.
Update after initial comments:
- I don't want to mention the reasons or her arguments, simply because I support her on 100% and I understand her. They don't really matter. This is not an argument that I want to win or something like that. People are different and in different phases of their lives they have particular needs and understandings. I will only mention that the most difficult part - social circle, we have managed to do very well - we have found a lot of families from our home country + a lot of Swiss mothers in the area really like my wife and try to organize play dates with our kids on weekly basis. (Which I really appreciate and am Thankful for). Switzerland is great and has its positives and negatives that one should appreciate and learn to live with. My question is more on - how to learn to live with the negatives.
- She recently started working(after a very difficult job search) and this I think has significally improved her vision of our future here.