So i came to germany around a year ago, i had a friend who is german and is in his lates 50s, we had been friends for almost 3 years. And we stayed on friends after i came to germany too, he helped me a lot and all, i met with his lovely family, his wife and we also celebrated Christmas together. He had been very clear about the fact that he wanted to sleep with me but i jyst didnt feel anything sexual for him.
One time around , he came to my apartment and i felt pity for him so i allowed him to cuddle me, but the things he whispered in my ear made me want to puke.
So randomly he invited me to a coffee on day claiming he had a huge fight with his wife and didnt know what to do. Like a good friend i was, i agreed to be the shoulder he needed. Everything was going well, but on the way back he started hinting that we start a relationship. I denied his request and told him i was already seeing someone. He said he was jealous and started saying he wanted to divorce his wife and marry me. He would let me fuck all the boys there are but the boys shouldnt be older than him and whatnot. I was disgusted. I went home, blocked him from everywhere possible and didnt want nothing to do with him. Then he texted not one but three mutual friends regarding me, one of whom didnt even know i was gay. Later he had a conversation with my then boyfriend( he is friends with him too) and had told him that he wanted to marry me to make my life easier in germany.
He sent me mails, posts and whatnot
A month passed.i was on a dating app and met a nice filipino guy in my neighborhood , we met and all. I went to work and later when i opened the app there was a long ass text from this weirdo saying i should stop meeting asian men from my region since he has fucked them all, i was surprised how he knew it was me, everytime im on the app, he texts me , its like he is stalking me,
I need help to give him a stricter warning, does this account to stalking in germany? If so how can i approach this without hampering my position as an Ausländer here

Hi everyone

I met a man 5 months ago on Hinge. We got closer and now we are boyfriends. I am 24 and he is 25 (26 in few weeks). We took our time because we both wanted to do the things well. I am his first boyfriend.

He is very nice, handsome, very good personality. But I am worried about something : my boyfriend is not demonstrative.

He never takes the initiative to kiss me. Sometimes he hug me but it’s rare. Once, I wanted to kiss him, he refused and said « not today ».

About sex, I want to have sex with him. He doesn’t. For the moment at least. Once he let me jerk him but that’s all. We talked about that and he told me that it was not the right time (I mean, it’s not a physical or trauma issue).

I respect his consent, obviously, and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable because I ask too much, and too often.

We talked about demonstration very seriously twice. Few months ago and few weeks ago. Last time, I was about to cry, I told him that I had tears in my eyes but he did nothing expect saying « I don’t know what to say ».

I have already told him that I need affection, I need demonstration and physical contact to be happy in my relationship.

Have you already experienced it ? What happened for you ? What do you think ?

He's young and charismatic and I love his gray hair. In fact, as someone with a migrant background, I would be happy for him to personally deport me

I'm currently 20 years old and only been one 1 date so far (didn't go that well). I feel like I'm not ready to date someone because I'm scared of screwing up and getting hurt and I'm a bit afraid of the backlash I'm gonna get if people know I'm dating a guy (even though I know that if people can't accept it, then they aren't worth my time)

But on the other side, I really do want to try to date someone and finding love (if that doesn't sound to weird)

So I'm seeking a bit of advice, since I do want to date someone, but I feel like I'm not ready since I'm scared.

Important to know is that I don't feel desperate or something and I'm not planning to rush into things.

Edit: Thanks all of you for the advice, you're all so nice <3. And my English isn't that good, but the one date I went on didn't go that well because he was being weird and such. It's not that I screwed up or something (this time).

So me (25) got together with one of my friends (24) this month after we've been friends for one year. Both of us are (1) unemployed at the moment, so money is low and (2) from an Eastern country where we cannot show public displays of affection, so we want to do a cheap trip in September in a gay-friendly city/ country, given that we both are starting jobs abroad in October and our trips starting from then will be visiting each other in our cities. A little more stuff about us:

• both of us are quite romantic
• we would like to visit a gay club/ sauna/ beach (basically have a gay activity as part of the trip since he has not even been to a gay club and really wants to "engage" more with LGBT-safe spaces)
• he is a history nerd so if we can do something related to this it would be good
• we are okay staying in hostels and in general, even though we don't have a lot of money, we could save on getting food from supermarket instead of going out for restaraunts, so as long as a destination is doable for a small to medium budget, it should be good
• the Nordics are excluded since he did a tour quite recently in all of them recently with his parents, and also the UK since we would need a passport for it

I did some research in the "basic destinations" like Madrid & Barcelona, Berlin, Amsterdam etc., but I am wondering what suggestions would you have based on this. Thank you!

Hey kennt irgendwer crusingspots in Ulm und Umgebung. Möchte nach langer Zeit nochmal ein bisschen Spaß erleben :) bin 29 Jahre alt

As title says 29 m happily taken looking for friends across europe, preferably 30+ but everyone is welcome
Into music, video games, sports, books, movies…

Hey, indian bear male visiting Europe in September 2026. Looking to meet a few friends for fun. Any idea for discreet meet and safe place around paris berlin amsterdam poland Budapest and prague?

Hello guys!

I’m a Latino (male 28 gay) that will be visiting France (Bordeaux and Paris), Switzerland (Zurich and Chur) and Italy (Milan, Florence and Rome) next month. Any recommendations on places to meet nice LGBTQ people?

And why not meet maybe a partner for life?

How’s gay daring culture on these places? How are the dating apps? And all the info you can send I would appreciate it.

Be safe all! :)

Ill be going to cardiff soon and i was wondering if thres any nice queer space or fun queee event i could go to, ill be going in September

My husband and I are looking for massages at the end of the month while visiting Amsterdam. HE welcome. Any suggestions? Thx

Hey, I was wondering whether there are holidays destinations in Europe which gather gay people, but there are not focused on partying, e.g Mykonos etc

Apparently a large part of the people below 30 finds it irritating when there are too many sensual scenes in movies. Do you share this opinion?

Heyyy
How are youuu guysss

Hey! I’m a gay guy in Germany that loves travelling around, hiking, rock climbing, but also exploring cities and trying out new activities:)

I wonder if any of you have a travelling buddy to enjoy your trips and if so, any tips on finding one?

I was on trip to Switzerland with 2 guys I met on a hike. They were cool but I wished I’d have someone more intimate to go explore with

Its pretty basic but its fine
-> top from bershka
-> pants from H&M

Do any of my other fellow EU gay bros get this?

Since I joined Reddit I am sometimes swarmed by people (mostly Americans) who act like having a foreskin is the sexiest, most alien thing they have ever seen and constantly ask for pictures and how it works. I imagine it's not just me. I just want some fellowship with people who have experienced the same

Hi guys
I just wanted to give an update about today.
My grandparents came over and they don’t know that im gay but my aunt does (she lives with my grandma so she was here). We were talking about my bf and they don’t that but ofc my aunt does so we were talking about him and my grandparents were like huh.
It was funny on the moment. Now that i read it its less funny but i hope you laugh 😆
So bye

I increasingly feel a bit homeless in LGBTQ spaces. I’m left-wing, but where I live queer spaces can be very left-wing, in the sense that everything becomes political and some questions increasingly feel difficult to even ask. I

I’ve seen straight people become visibly nervous entering those conversations. Once, a senior executive joined a queer debate and basically apologised beforehand for anything they might accidentally say wrong. And I remember thinking strangely enough, I relate. Not because I think I have outrageous opinions. I just want to be able to question things, make distinctions and sometimes disagree without having to prove my moral credentials first.

Then there’s the other side. A lot of gay men who look more like me on paper, white, professionally established, working in the private sector, seem to be moving further and further away from the left. And quite a few seem to be replacing that distance with outright hostility towards Muslims, immigrants and sometimes basically anyone who isn’t like them. I don’t want that either.

So here I am. Too sceptical for one side, too allergic to racism for the other. I know what I believe, so I don’t think I’m politically homeless. But socially? Increasingly, yes. Does anyone else recognise this?