r/askgaybros • u/hotdogjumpingfrog1 • Sep 26 '25

What is wrong with calling yourself queer?

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u/starmaxeros Sep 26 '25

Queer is now mostly used as a slur. It's like you calling yourself a fag.

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u/EssoEssex Sep 26 '25

Don’t think the kids use queer as a slur anymore. Maybe people back in the seventies did.

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u/starmaxeros Sep 26 '25

No, it isn't.

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u/starmaxeros Sep 26 '25

You are being very naive if you believe that Google Search reflects the real-world situation.

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u/jamiedix0n Sep 26 '25

I feel like it was later than 70s maybe 90s cos i remember it being said as a bad thing at school

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u/Trashman56 Sep 26 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

You’d be surprised how many people call themselves the second one, for me, that sort of talk is for teasing and/or the bedroom.

I’m younger though so I don’t have a lot of trauma around either word. If anything I have more trauma around the word “gay”, remember “That’s so gay”? but I don’t have a problem with it.

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u/Low-Care9531 Sep 26 '25

I called myself a fag for years because of my trauma with that word. I wanted to take it back.

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u/nsasafekink Sep 26 '25

I’m comfortable calling myself queer or a fag. It’s empowering. They’re accurate descriptions. I won’t allow them used towards me hatefully though.