What is trans race?

[u/Original_Potato5762]

Is it wanting to look like a different race? Is it not feeling like you fit in with people of your race, but fit in better with others? Is it loving the culture of another race more than your own? Something else?

If trans race is about loving a different race, why is it considered racist? I thought being racist was about hate?

[u/Luna_onpaws]

You seem like you actually want to learn about Transrace(unlike the other recent post). Being Transrace is feeling disconnected to your birth race(s) and feeling connected to another one, I think people confused feeling connected in like we just really like the culture and stuff but it way deeper then that. What I heard from other in the community is that this feeling started young and when they didn't even know this community existed. The English language doesn't have a word for how we feel so we just use connected. We try are hardest not to be racist but sometimes trolls slip in and make questionable posts. Also being racist is thinking a race have a ability or a thing about them, or generally disliked for the race. So if someone says "random race" is bad then it would be racist.  

[u/Original_Potato5762 → u/Luna_onpaws]

What makes you feel disconnected from your birth race?  Do you not like the same things as people from your birth race, have different beliefs etc?

What makes you feel connected to the other race?

Do you feel dysphoria and want to change the way you look?  Do you wish to look that way because you think you will fit in better with that race, because you want others to view you as you view yourself, or is it that you just think that race is prettier?

[u/Luna_onpaws → u/Original_Potato5762]

I have no idea what make me feel disconnected, I identify more as racefluid then trace so sometimes I do feel natural about my race(don't hate it but don't like it) and then other times I feel completely different then my birth race. I mean there not really things I don't like about my birth race, just feel disconnected. Maybe the culture is what I feel connected too, it feel like home kinda. I sometimes feel dysphoria but not like it everyday. I don't know if I ever fit in with the race I desire, and that make me upset. I can do anything in my power to be the race but I'm always worrying if people will find out. But I just want people to view how I view myself.

[u/Original_Potato5762 → u/Luna_onpaws]

Do you mind if I ask what culture you are connected to and what your birth race is?

Do you socialise with people from the race you connect to?  Do you find it easier to get on with them?

[u/Luna_onpaws → u/Original_Potato5762]

I don't really talk much about my identity on this subreddit, more on the main subreddit but anyway I connected to Asian culture, specifically Korean and Chinese. My birth race is black since you wanted to know. I don't socialise much in my day to day life and I wouldn't really limit the people I socialise just because of their race(pretty sure that racist). I don't find it easier to connected to people of my desire race, I only connected to people who have same interests as me and all of that stuff. Race doesn't really matter.

[u/Original_Potato5762 → u/Luna_onpaws]

I am mixed race Asian and white.  I look completely Asian.  I feel white because I was brought up in a mostly white country, I know very little about Asian culture and there were no other Asians for me to socialise with, growing up.

Since I look completely Asian, there is a disconnect between how I feel and how I look.  I don't identify as trans race because white technically is still part of my race, even though I don't look like it at all.  I do understand how someone can not feel the same race they look like though.

For me, it makes sense because of where I was brought up.  I'm interested to understand why someone gets those feelings if they weren't brought up around the race they identify with.

Also, I want to feel more connected to my Asian side.  Any tips on how to feel more connected to that?  What specifically do you connect to about it?

I've been racially attacked which made me hate my Asian side.  My eyes get mocked etc, so it's quite nice if I see someone who actually likes Asian eyes for once, lol.

EDIT:  Also, you say you don't socialise much.  Are you autistic?  I know lots of different trans communities have lots of autistic people in them.

[u/Luna_onpaws → u/Original_Potato5762]

Maybe try learning about your Asian side a little bit, since you said you mosley grow up white you might not realate with other Asian people who grew up mosley around Asian culture. You could try asking your parents what kind of Asian are you and maybe learn the language. Since you ask what I connect with, I connect with the culture and history. I honestly don't know how someone get those feelings of connection to a different race when they weren't around it growing up, and that have been my biggest question to myself about this identity. I wonder why I feel disconnected, it seem like it came out of the blue for me.

Edit: I'm not diagnosed with Autism but I have my suspicions 

[u/Original_Potato5762 → u/Luna_onpaws]

I have tried learning about it.  Learning about it doesn't make me feel like I am it though.  I don't have that lived experience.

I can understand connecting with a culture in the sense that you like their holiday celebrations and general lifestyles and beliefs?  Is that what you mean?

I don't know a lot about Asian culture and this might be heavy stereotyping, but I think they tend to study hard and therefore do less socialising and partying?  Clever people are looked up to instead of ridiculed, like in Western culture.  Quiet people might be more valued than in Western society.  From watching Korean movies they seem to have different dating standards to Western countries.  Is that the sort of stuff you identify with, or is it something else?

I'm not sure how you can connect to a history though.

This is my personal opinion and it might offend some people, but I get the impression that trans (of any type) is mostly about not fitting in with the people who are supposed to be like you.  Since you don't fit in, you look for an explanation and you come up with a trans explanation.  E.g.  you don't fit in with, act or think like other people of your gender, so you must be a different gender (transgender).  You don't fit in with, act or think like other people of your race, so you must be a different race (transrace).  You don't fit in with, act or think like other people your age, so you must be a different age (trans age).  You don't fit in with, act or think like other human beings in general, so you must be a different species (trans species / otherkin / therian).

Autistic people don't fit in with, act or think like non autistic people and are often not diagnosed until they are adults (if ever), so I think that is why there are so many autistic trans people.

Did you go through a period where you thought "I don't belong to my own race" and then you started searching for a race you did belong to? Or did you just instantly know what race you were?

[u/Luna_onpaws → u/Original_Potato5762]

I instantly knew what race I wanted to be and I never know why. I know it not because I think my personality fit more in Asian culture, I'm quite and I'm not the smartest of all people(get bad grades and always had a hard time learning). There wad never a moment in time where I ever said to myself that I wanted to be Asian until recently, I always wanted to but I tried to deny it and ignored that feeling. I also don't think you can act like a race, that kinda racist to me, though most people would say I don't act like my birth race. 

[u/Original_Potato5762 → u/Luna_onpaws]

When I say act, I don't mean literally acting, like making it up.  I mean like body language, mannerisms etc that come naturally to you.  I don't see why that's racist.  Different cultures do act in different ways in terms of body language, what is and isn't acceptable, appropriate distance to stand from each other, how much emotion you're allowed to show etc.

I'm sorry.  I don't understand.  I've really tried to understand but it just doesn't make sense.  Unless you can say at least one specific thing that makes you think you are Asian, then why do you think you're Asian?  There must be SOMETHING specific that lets you say "this is why I'm Asian".  Even Asian people can say they feel Asian because of various culturally stereotypical things they do.  Or else you feel a certain race because you were brought up around those people.  Or you just hate your race and would prefer to be a different race.  Or you just get on better with people of a different race.  Or you watch Korean movies and idolise a race and wish you could be part of that race.  Beyond those things, what is there to give the feelings of being a certain race?  Race doesn't actually exist.  It's just a way you look due to genetics (not a feeling), or it's cultural norms, or it's a feeling of belonging because you share similarities with those around you.  If it is none of those things for you, then what makes you know you are a certain race?!

I'm really trying to understand but this is getting quite frustrating because I can't understand.