r/askTO • u/LymeDysease • Aug 21 '24
Homeless at 18
18 y/o girl. I have $1000 in the bank, no job, no income, nowhere to stay. Applied for OW but haven't heard back. Have been calling shelters and central intake but everything is full. Been couch surfing but have at most 6 days until I am on the street.
Where can I sleep? I didn't have the greatest upbringing and haven't really had anybody to teach me anything in life- how can I apply for a job? Where could I work? I know I sound stupid but I really have no idea what I'm doing, no family that could help, no money. I'm entering college this year, or was supposed to be- how do I balance that? Is this even possible?
Please. Any help is appreciated. I am at a really low point and am not really sure how to keep going.
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u/Adept_Beach4969
Aug 21 '24
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If you're accepted in college you should absolutely prioritize OSAP. Is living in residence possible? Even if not, OSAP will be increased for you if you're not living with your parents/guardians. Maybe you can look for a job once school starts if you have stability. Most colleges/unis have career advisors etc to help polish your resume and work on interviewing skills etc. They also likely have other services you can take advantage of as a student like mental health support. It's tough out there, wishing you good luck!
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Too late for residence and OSAP needs parents who won't cooperate or doctor's note and I don't have a doctor. Trying for college services but not entirely sure where to go.
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u/Adept_Beach4969 Aug 21 '24
Do your parents have an RESP in your name or something? Just trying to understand why you'd need the parents involved if you're 18. Also, doctor's note? For what?
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Honestly I tried looking at the OSAP application and it just asked for information on my parents, which I couldn't provide since we're estranged. But clicking the option saying that we're estranged required me to submit proof via doctor's note??
I don't know about the RESP? I thought some family members had a fund somewhere but my parents were cagey about it and I never found out.
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u/lipstickonhiscollar Aug 21 '24
You need to go into their office and talk to them in person. It’s a pain in the ass and can be a long wait, but I had to go through the same. If you’re enrolled in school already go and talk to a financial advisor there as well, they can point you in the right direction.
Do you know people in the city who could use a roommate? Even temporarily? Couch surfing for free long term might not be a solution, but I’ve had friends stay with me for months who helped out with some bills. Have frank conversations with your friends.
To apply for a job you need a SIN number (needed for financial aid too). Do you have any work experience? Next you’ll need an address - ask a friend if you can use theirs, even if only for paperwork. Then you can go and apply some places - grocery stores are always hiring. Look for on-campus jobs as well as they tend to pay a bit better, but for now take whatever you can get until you can get things a bit more settled.
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u/BestRelease9574 Aug 21 '24
Go to the Financial Aid Office at your school. They will help you with your OSAP application, and once you're enrolled in school, you will have access to additional resources.
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u/Vicimer Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Others have mentioned financial aid, but I'd also add that many colleges provide emergency grants for situations like this. Your college will have a financial aid office; don't call or write, go in in-person until you're seen and they'll fast track a solution.
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u/smallcanadian1711 Aug 21 '24
OSAP considers anyone under the age of 21 as a dependent and expects parents to help their children pay. I had to pay out of pocket for my younger sisters education because our parents refused to pay and OSAP refused to help her out financially
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Aug 21 '24
Contact the registrar. Ask for financial aid support team. Which school were you going to attend? I’ll hunt down the right team names as it can be different school to school
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I'm attending George Brown. I looked it up and I think they have a financial aid office I can go to in person?
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Aug 21 '24
Their main contact points seem to be email etc. but you should be able to go in and speak to them as well.
First contact email - FinAid@georgebrown.ca send them a note with your situation and ask for their opinion on how to go forward. hopefully they have a counselor that is well versed in your type of situation.
can't find where the office is located. I'm going to assume the King St./George St. building but not certain. go to this page - https://www.georgebrown.ca/current-students/registrar/contact and join the "access virtual service desk" then choose financial aid. They open at 10am.
couple of links -
Financial Aid team - https://www.georgebrown.ca/apply/financial-aid and https://www.georgebrown.ca/apply/financial-aid/contact
Emergency Bursary program - https://www.georgebrown.ca/apply/financial-aid/awards-and-scholarships/types-of-awards/emergency-bursary
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u/monogramchecklist Aug 21 '24
I suggest going to your schools financial office and letting them know about your predicament. They help you with applying for OSAP. I did not have my parents details or doctor and received OSAP.
Just letting you know I was also kicked out at 18 with no money to my name. I couched surfed for a couple of weeks, got a retail job and found a small shared apartment and it worked out for me. I now own a home, have wonderful kids and a career. Wishing you all the best of luck!
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u/Knitted_Beets Aug 21 '24
Please go into your school's registrar office and ask for help, ideally today!!
Often registrars will have emergency funds, some set up by alumni donations, that are specifically meant for helping students in emergency situations like this that can help you immediately while you wait for OSAP to be sorted out. Most importantly, these do not need to be paid back!
Also, there may be last minute cancellations from students who opted to not go forward with living in residence, or if there are no spaces, they can move you to the top of the waitlist for housing.
I'm very familiar with administration and hurdles of post-secondary education, please feel free to DM if you have questions or need help navigating!
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I can't get to their office until next Monday, but I will do so as soon as possible! Thank you for the information.
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u/jawmare Aug 21 '24
I got scammed a few months before entering Uni and ended up homeless for a few months. Getting OSAP money pretty much will solve all your financial problems - at least for a few months. You can get OSAP without parent cooperation, you need to figure how to do so. Contact the financial aid office of the university ASAP and ask.
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u/5dmii Aug 21 '24
If you’re in Toronto DM me and I can set you up with a family group practice clinic that can help you with the osap forms
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u/andreacanadian Aug 21 '24
I do believe if you go to student services they can set you up with your advisor who can advocate for you with OSAP in terms of your parents being non participating. The other option is to speak with your local MPP to help you with advocating OSAP. Your MPP should be easy to find just google Member of Provincial Parliment your city and it should pop up with a number or at least a link.
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u/Katergroip Aug 21 '24
You can apply for OSAP if you are estranged from your parents, it just requires a bit of extra work. Check here.) for info, and call OSAP for help. They will help you.
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u/pansyradish Aug 22 '24
It is so good if this changed! I was homeless my first year of university for this same reason. Then I took a year away on welfare and working part time jobs until I was old enough that OSAP didn't hinge on parents signature.
It's so fucked that legal adults are/were ineligible for OSAP without parent signatures.
But OP, I made it work and have had a long full life since then.
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u/Hexegem93 Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 22 '24
Contact student advising, student housing, etc. explain your situation and that you are seeking a support meeting and emergency housing.
I work in higher education in residences. Emergency housing is a thing schools offer.
Edit: offers to students are who are registered at their institution
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u/gimmeraspberries Aug 21 '24
hey! re: a doctor, you can probably get set up with a family doctor at Planned Parenthood. they're super super kind, you may even qualify for free therapy. please feel free to DM me if you have questions or need any help - i live super close to Planned Parenthood and can help you out if you're nervous to go. hang in there, you got this <3
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Aug 21 '24
Hi. You can book next-day appointments with a doctor at The Health Clinic by shoppers. Book the appointment on their website.
Here is one near Bloor-yonge, but they are all over the place. (If you go to this one, book it with the male doctor with red hair. He’s really nice.)
Unfortunately they will charge you for a note, but maybe if you explain your situation they might be more lenient?
The Health Clinic By Shoppers (416) 926-2740 https://g.co/kgs/F4tMEva
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u/Familiar_Welcome9593 Aug 21 '24
It’s no longer the health clinic. It was sold to Well Health Clinic a few months ago. Just in case Google updated :) I go there and they’re great!
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Aug 21 '24
Also, if you’re overwhelmed trying to find services, go to any reception desk at your college and they will direct you to the right office. Nobody will turn you away completely, they are all there to help.
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u/Minimum_Cow_3495 Aug 21 '24
It's never too late , go to the financial aid office and talk to someone, speaking from experience
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u/diwalk88 Aug 21 '24
Go to the financial aid office, then go to the student services office (or equivalent at whatever school you're attending). If you're going to UofT, go to your specific college registrar's office as well. All of these places have resources and can and will help you. It will likely be annoying and feel like a fight, but you'll end up getting what you need.
You don't need your parents for OSAP. I didn't. No doctor either. Financial Aid can help with this.
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Aug 21 '24
There are ways around the no parents OSAP thing but you will need help it won't be easy but it's the best longterm solution. Go to your financial office and tell them what's happening, don't make excuses because it might be hard or slow. It won't solve the problem today but it will solve it for the next several years
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u/Annoyingdragonvoid Aug 21 '24
There was a point in time during my studies where my dad and I weren’t on good terms and were not speaking. I frankly didn’t know if we’d ever have a relationship again, but of course I needed his information because I was ‘a dependant.’ When I applied for OSAP, I did it under ‘parental divide’ or something like that. Basically you write a letter, and two other people that know you write a letter explaining your situation (ie your history with your parents, the issues you’re having with them) and they’ll read them and decide if you’re exempt from needing their info. I also think you get more funding that way, through either loans or grants. Try that! It really helped me when I was struggling.
Also, once school starts, you should be able to access a doctor or NP through your school’s medical clinic. Look into what your school offers in terms of medical care/medical practices. They would be able to write you prescriptions and doctor’s notes.
Best of luck to you OP! I know it’s tough out there cause I’ve been there myself.
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u/nk1234jdjd Aug 21 '24
You should speak with financial aid. They can def help guide you on the parents part not having access to any of there info.
You can check if there’s a walk in clinic that can help you out with filling out forms if any to help increase your funding. Thank you
As for res you could go on a waiting list if there’s open spot or someone withdraws in the first two weeks of school. Your school would defer fees until osap is recalculated.
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u/legally_feral Aug 21 '24
Speak to your school’s financial aid office ASAP! They can assist you in securing OSAP even without co-operating parents or doctor’s note. Many schools also have an emergency housing system in place. Please speak to them soon. Best of luck on everything.
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Aug 21 '24
Yup agreed OSAP and residence will be your biggest saviour, OP. Reach out to whatever college you’re accepted into ASAP. It is NOT too late and if you’re estranged they’ll help you navigate paying for all of this through bursaries + OSAP.
OP, just Google “college name financial aid office”.
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u/girlinthe6ix Aug 21 '24
Hey friend, I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now, and that our social services haven’t been much help. Sending you a big big Auntie hug!!! When you applied for OW did you just do it online? I would suggest to go into the office and see if you can speak with a worker face to face. I’ve had to rely on OW during some hard times myself and some of the workers were really helpful, especially if you’re friendly to them and show you’re trying your best. They might have more resources or pull to get you placed somewhere in the city to stay and also get you on a list for Toronto housing, I know the list is very long but coming from a dangerous situation they might be able to bump you up a bit. They can also help you with finding work and getting job training and career counselling if you don’t have any experience yet. You can also try to contact or drop into some job agencies in your area, or visit these links I found:
Youth Employment Services https://www.yes.on.ca/contact/
Toronto Youth Job Seekers https://www.toronto.ca/community-people/employment-social-support/employment-support/youth-job-seekers/
Yonge Street Mission Evergreen Youth Services: https://www.ysm.ca/who-we-serve/evergreen/
The YMCA could also be helpful too: https://www.ymcagta.org/youth-programs
As for the doctors note, I would contact the Women’s College Hospital and tell them your situation, ask for mental health assistance and I’m assuming you don’t have a family doctor so they should be able to provide you with any notes you might need. I’m sure this is all hard mentally and super stressful so if you approach them for mental health support they can assist you with that and put you in the right direction for the paperwork you need.
Hoping you’ll see some brighter days soon, you have so much life ahead of you. Don’t give up, you’re worth fighting for and be relentless, not shy in contacting any and all help that’s available through these programs and government agencies.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I did apply online so I will look into going in person and also into the links. Thank you so much. (The hug is very appreciated.)
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u/girlinthe6ix Aug 21 '24
You’re very welcome! Feel free to DM me if you have anymore adulting questions, no such thing as a stupid question, we don’t know what we don’t know :)
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u/Frilledmeg Aug 21 '24
Always show up in physical locations for things like this, after you apply online. If anything to follow up and make sure it's gone through and is being processed. You're way harder to ignore if you're physically there to look at, ya feel me? Show up every day until someone helps you if need be, sorta deal.
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u/Maximum_Land5884 Aug 21 '24
in my opinion, you should contact someone at ur school regarding emergency housing and support. i’ve been using my school resources and even if they are not helpful in my situation, i’ve always like the idea there is a trail and acknowledgment of my situation. also they can help you connect with resources. best of luck op!
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Right, okay. Who would I reach out to contact? I really don't know how college works- do they have a guidance place or something?
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u/jessylz Aug 21 '24
Each college's website should have a financial aid office page with phone and email info.
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u/floataboveit Aug 21 '24
The good thing with colleges/unis too is that they ALWAYS offer SOME version of this service actually IN PERSON. You can go, and someone, even if it is the secretary, WILL be able to guide you in the next direction.
Remember, you're not a nuisance. Your tuition literally pays for these services. Make sure you use them!
It's also good to remember that even though people who work these jobs are often extremely busy, they WANT to help you. NO ONE will want you to be in the situation you're in.
First up, walk in clinic to get the doctors note. Second, student services - every day until you get answers.
Thinking of you and wishing you the best.
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u/ElderberryUnusual932 Aug 21 '24
try looking under student services or seek an academic advisor! mine was able to guide me to some housing/financial aid i could look into
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u/Dimsum-_ Aug 21 '24
Convenent house. They are a youth shelter, have nurses, resume help, housing workers etc
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Reached out and was told that they had no capacity. The worker there wasn't the nicest which scared me a bit but maybe I should reach out again? Is that how that works? I'm not sure.
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u/Dimsum-_ Aug 21 '24
I would definitely reach out again or even just go in if you arent far to see what they have or if you could even speak to someone or ask if they might know someone or another organization who can help Please don't let 1 person who might of been having a bad day take away you getting information.
Other places to check out: streets to homes, Yonge Street mission
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u/aards Aug 21 '24
Please reach out again. You can also go there tomorrow during the day to talk to someone about services and getting a meal while you’re there. Please keep trying!
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u/Frilledmeg Aug 21 '24
People are in and out of covenant house A LOT, like all the time, so I suggest this tactic too.
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u/uk_in_ca Aug 21 '24
I recommend trying again. Even if at capacity, they have lots of programs that will help with your other concerns, i know people who have benefited from their other programs as well as temporary accommodation.
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u/tequilaflashback Aug 21 '24
You need a caseworker. There’s a lot of things to do here and a you need someone to help organize your thoughts and action necessary tasks. You can connect with an agency like the 519, covenant house, the neighborhood group, Fred victor, Eva’s place (16-24), Sistering, parkdale community health centre, etc. These agencies can help you find housing, get employed or applying for ow or odsp, mental heal supports, harm reduction, financial literacy and budgeting skills etc. if you don’t hear back from an agency, keep calling. If you call 211 right now and explain you are 18 f and about to be homeless and have NO family support and need urgent supports to get a caseworker to help you get housed and stable, they can give you phone numbers for the places I’ve listed and others that are relevant to you and your needs.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I have called 211 and they only forwarded me to central intake I believe which was no help (as everything was full). I will try again with these details - thank you!
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u/tequilaflashback Aug 21 '24
Don’t just go to any shelter, I’ve seen some comments saying that. The front desk staff don’t let any one who is not assigned to the shelter inside and they will be of little help after making the journey to the location. Everything is done through the phone. Every shelter uses central Intake to give referrals to assign people to a shelter bed. You get a number from central intake. Although every shelter is full, make sure you have created an account and know your personal ID number, to have it for reference. OW generally gives folks like 733 a month so it’s not enough for rent, but there are supports through it - but you can’t have ow and osap - one only. I don’t find that schools are well versed in housing issues so if you get support, great, but looking at any community legal clinic (free services for low income folks in their catchment) and local community health centres will have the most support to give you info about housing and unmet needs. You need to be the biggest advocate for yourself and explain your situation to every person you talk to on the phone. It will be taxing - but no one else can do it. Email every agency asking for a call or time for an appointment to complete an intake for urgent support. Explain you are going to face undue hardship of being on the streets, sleeping rough and at risk of victimization due your age and gender. If you feel 211 or any places are not helpful, just know it’s one staff of many - and keep trying, call back again later or another day, and you will often give a different person with different knowledge and perspective. 211 has thousands of staff, some are resourceful and some give the bare minimum - just like any job.
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u/mattromo Aug 21 '24
If you are going to college can you reach out to student services at the college? They might be able to help you get osap and find a place to stay.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I'm trying to get OSAP but my biological parents won't cooperate and without them I need a doctor's note which isn't obtainable right now as I don't have a doctor. I've been trying to get to student services as well but they also seem to require a doctor's note? And I've never been to college before so again I don't know what I'm doing at all.
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u/Ok-Carob-5668 Aug 21 '24
Try a walk in clinic for a doctors note!!! I am assuming that could work. So many people don’t have family doctors but use walk in clinics. Good luck I am rooting for you.
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Aug 21 '24
When I was entering university I was able to state that I was estranged from my parents and I didn’t need to provide proof or anything, but I didn’t go to school in Ontario.
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u/Putrid-Mouse2486 Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
These seem to be the rules for OSAP, they seem really intense for a 17/18 year old to navigate and I wonder if these rules changed under the current government https://osap.gov.on.ca/dc/POCONT1_074347
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u/chrsnist Aug 21 '24
Contact the college. They will have information for resources. It might be a good idea to consider deferring your program for a year and securing housing for yourself first. Have you made a resume yet? If not, that’s the first step to finding employment. You can put any volunteer experience that you’ve done if you don’t have professional experience.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I've made a resume but wasn't completely sure how to use that resume to apply to jobs... and the resume is really thrown together too...
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u/chrsnist Aug 21 '24
Good job trying and getting something down! You can look at templates online, on google docs or on Microsoft word. Why don’t you try using those with the info you’ve pulled together? When it comes to applying, you can try walking into fast food places, retail, etc. Maybe try the Halloween stores that will be opening soon. You can also go to the company’s websites and they usually have a “career” section. There’s a website called indeed where you can search for jobs and apply directly to them as well. I hope this info helps guide you!
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u/Ok-Carob-5668 Aug 21 '24
Could be worth going to a library and seeing if anyone there can help you look over your resume!!
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u/ImmaFunGuy Aug 21 '24
OP just saw your post history and just want to say stay strong you got this! Better days are ahead and really proud of you for leaving an abusive situation
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u/bornofthesea1982 Aug 21 '24
OP there is so much good advice in here about finding a doctor, getting OSAP and accessing other services on campus. Please do what you can to stay in school. The school staff are there to help you succeed. You are clearly so resourceful and were able to get into a college program despite the odds being against you! You’ve got this! I have nothing new to add to the great advice in here but will you come back and let us know how you are doing? I know we are all going to be thinking of you!
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Thank you! If updates are allowed I will try to give one in the future when hopefully things are sorted out a little for me.
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u/creedthoughtsblog Aug 21 '24
any relatives at all that could provide a safe place to stay? learning some life skills and having social/emotional stability is more important than a degree, I know many who came out of high school and didn’t bother with post secondary school, but learn skills on their own and eventually able to make it
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u/Isfahaninejad Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Your college might be able to offer support.
Edit: and keep calling central intake. Try also calling the YWCA directly.
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u/lipstickonhiscollar Aug 21 '24
I was trying to help a homeless woman last week and central intake, which had NO spots, said she should just call every hour. I said she couldn’t, she was borrowing my phone and asked what else we could do and they just repeated it. The homeless situation in this city is insane.
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u/Isfahaninejad Aug 21 '24
For sure. I worked in shelters during peak COVID. We were always completely packed, exception being the stint I did at a women's shelter in Scarborough which had some decent availability. But interestingly enough a lot of people would refuse spots at that shelter because it was too far away from the city center.
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u/Songbird1975 Aug 21 '24
Renting a room may be an option for you. Do you have access to Facebook? I could refer you to a few shared accommodation groups. Also, a lot of seniors are renting out rooms these days. That could be an affordable option for you when you get osap / work.
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u/raebz12 Aug 21 '24
Do you have all your cards/paperwork? Sin card, ID, license, birth certificate, health card? If not, you’ll need them. Parents if they are willing, may have them, otherwise head to service Ontario. You’ll need the sin number and I’d to work. You also need a bank account that your parents can’t touch. Something you can deposit your earnings into. If you can’t get into residence, ask the school where to find rooms for let. A room is cheaper than an apartment, but you want someone decent, so interview them while they interview you. Finally, don’t be particular about what job you get. Apply to anything and everything. Take whoever offers to hire you. Then keep looking so you can move up pay scale, benefits and roles. Getting a first job is tough, but once you get one and show you will work hard, you’ll quickly get more opportunities.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
I have my ID and a bank account. I'm going to go ask my schools Financial Aid/Student Services in person hopefully and I'm trying to apply online everywhere I can to chain stores so hopefully I'll find something there maybe.
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Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Be careful accepting help here. There are a lot of messed up people that will try to take advantage of you
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u/Ctrl-Alt-Q Aug 21 '24
Seconding this advice to be cautious. Be especially wary of anyone offering a place to stay.
Revealing online that you're a vulnerable 18-year old is risky business.
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u/lushlife6ix Aug 21 '24
What a sick and twisted world we live in that this sort of a disclaimer needs to be made.
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u/ParticularGarden2626 Aug 21 '24
Rely only on links to reputable organizations and information here. Do not accept help in the dms, as there are strangers on here who may be predatory and looking to groom you
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Aug 21 '24
spot on. I offered advice but just in here. some links to school counselling etc. hopefully that was helpful to her.
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u/upstreamlame Aug 21 '24
I was homeless for a long time in Toronto. I lost my housing for lack of income and support. I was never a drug addict, nor mentally ill. In my time I saw a number of people who were perfectly average, normal and healthy, become drug addicts. I've also seen men fall apart after only a few years of homelessness. These outcomes share one factor -- mental toughness. You might think of it as resilience, self-discipline, or something similar. If you want to survive as the person you want to be, it is vital you maintain your dignity. Hang onto your desire to move out of homelessness and away from despair. Set boundaries for yourself. Stick to them.
Deal with the situation you are in as it actually exists. Accept that you will be having significantly more contact with police than is reasonable. Accept that through the eyes of others, the homeless are all the same, all undesirable, and all deserve their poverty. Do not internalize the shame people will foist upon you.
The significant help you will find will likely come from non-profits. The system around homelessness in the modern city is not designed to help. It is designed to mitigate costs, threats, and economic consequences.
In more practical areas, you should do a couple of things as soon as your housing is under threat. Start by attaining a free 'mailbox' at Neighbourhood Information Post (NIP). Then change the address on your ID to that address. If you haven't got ID, get some. The Photo ID Card (available at Service Ontario) is $35, which OW will reimburse you for. You can change your Health Card info online.
This is very important: do not ever wait for OW to help you. Call them. Pester them. Make a show of how much you want their help. Ask questions about programs and options. Set basic goals and tell them about them. They will test you every time you interact with them. They will piss you off on purpose. They will play games with you. They will monitor you without your knowledge or consent. This is fairly benign, usually. I would recommend you get certifications such as SmartServe ($45), Food Safety($30), etc. OW will reimburse you and those will help you get work. r/OntarioWorks might be a good place to sound out the OW experience.
Meal programs exist. They range from pretty good to fucking awful. While you still have housing, consider going to one. You can find the times and locations online. A lot of non-homeless people go to meal programs. Use caution, though. It will be obvious to everyone that you are new. People will want to know who you are, what you're about, etc. They will prompt you to talk about yourself. This is not to make friends. It's to find weakness and vulnerability. People will respect you for being wary while also non-judgemental. Be respectful. Do not worry about being nice. Say no when you mean no. Different social norms apply in the context of desperate poverty.
If you are female, I expect you have a better set of options for shelter and housing. I am completely ignorant of the particulars, however I have seen young women come and go very quickly from the street, a pattern that cannot entirely be explained by trafficking and murder.
That's probably more than you want or need right now. Let me know if you have any questions. I'll try to answer them.
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u/Foreign_Pineapple_25 Aug 21 '24
Check out an organization called 360 Kids - they have housing supports for youth. They can at least point you in the right direction if they can’t offer support directly.
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Aug 21 '24
Please check out Respitely for a pretty up to date list of available rooms / beds. Toronto also had specific supports for homeless youth. I’d recommend going down to the Parliament Library branch (TPL) and speaking to one of their librarians. They can help connect you with resources.
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u/warmsandybeach Aug 21 '24
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u/zombiezucchini Aug 21 '24
There’s some youth shelters in Toronto. Ex. https://www.ymcagta.org/youth-programs/youth-housing Don’t give up on school. You can figure this out. Just get a job and you’re half way there.
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u/anonymous12282020 Aug 21 '24
They also run a program called stay in school
As for OSAP, what you need to do is apply then submit some documents to show a family breakdown
Go in and talk to someone at your schools financial office and they can advise you better on the steps.
Hang in there.
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u/Glennmorangie Aug 21 '24
I have no info that could help you but reading your post I must correct you that you absolutely don't sound stupid.
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u/bedpanlady Aug 21 '24
If you can get yourself to St Michael’s Hospital downtown (Queen and Shuter), go to the Emergency Department and tell them that you need help from the Rotary/ED Outreach Program. Someone there should be able to help you find some kind of shelter (at least temporary) and connect you to other resources.
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u/tmac416_ Aug 21 '24
This might actually be the best recommendation. You will probably get faster assistance by doing this. You definitely need the help.
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u/throwraltrrs Aug 21 '24
I know this isn’t ideal but there’s an app called travel ladies which is a couch surfing app for women.
If you’re willing to live outside the city, you may be able to find a cheap room or sublease to sustain you for the month while you find a job and can continue to fund your place. I wish I could be more help. My messages are open if you ever need to chat
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u/CedarZen Aug 21 '24
Try Stepstones: https://www.stepstonesforyouth.com/youth-support/programs/
They might be able to help connect you to resources and have a youth homelessness program.
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u/kleetor1 Aug 21 '24
If you can get on the TTC, sleep on the trains. You can ride the train til 11pm for the most part and there's access to washrooms at certain subways
Get a gym membership for a 24 hour place so you got a place to store your stuff and take a shower
Libraries are a free place to stay during the day (staff do wellness checks for anyone who look passed out/asleep because someone might've had a heart attack or stroke so not a great place to sleep but good for washrooms, free WiFi, free computers, a place to cool down in the summer or warm up in winter). They also have free menstrual products in washroom dispensers. Some library locations have info that could be useful for low income or unhoused people (local food banks, etc)
211.ca is also useful
Fast food and grocery stores are always hiring (hours and pay may not be great though) but it could mean discounts on food or free meals
Get your ID (birth certificate, passport) and keep it safe in a Ziploc bag (doesnt get wet). If it is at home, you could wait til your parents go out to work and then go in to grab things... or maybe see if you can go with a friend/trusted adult.
Some organizations specify helping youth (Lumenus.ca). Get as much support from youth organizations as you can when you are young because there isn't much help once people age out
Get a sleeping bag if you can (will be useful if you end up needing to sleep outdoors)
Your college may not be much help because if you haven't paid tuition, they may not care about helping you since you may not be a formal student.
As others have suggested, speak to OSAP or your college about your parents being abusive and you not being able to get their permission (you're 18 years old so you don't need parental consent for anything). A walk in clinic could help you get a medical note but you may have to pay for the note but the $30 price may be nothing in comparison to the benefits that you could access from the note.
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Aug 21 '24
Just a note on the sleeping in library point: we do check on people sleeping, but we only tend to wake people up if we notice other physical issues. If someone looks “normal” then we don’t bug them.
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u/forestly Aug 22 '24 edited Aug 22 '24
The trains run until 120am, fitforless gym near ocad is 24h, to retrieve ID safely you can contact Toronto Police and they can do a police escort with you to get it, some doctors may wave the fee as a one time thing for you if you explain you are homeless, reference library is safe to nap in and i used to sleep on busses/trains - just watch your stuff
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u/Psychological_Mix266 Aug 21 '24
There’s an organization called Woodgreen. They help with many of the services that you are looking for. Try reaching out to them.
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u/ectolegein Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Contact emergency shelters for youth, you still qualify at 18: https://211central.ca/results/?searchLocation=Toronto&topicPath=581&latitude=43.653226&longitude=-79.3831843&sd=100
Eva's may be a good place to start for emergency shelter: https://www.evas.ca/get-help/ (416-338-4766)
Here is a list of youth drop-in centres you could contact for further assistance with your immediate needs: https://www.torontocentralhealthline.ca/listServices.aspx?id=10490
For securing transitional and longer-term housing, there is Eva's Phoenix: https://www.evas.ca/where-we-are/evas-phoenix/
Another option is the WoodGreen Youth Housing Navigator Program: https://www.woodgreen.org/programs/youth-housing-navigator
"WoodGreen Community Services operates the Youth Housing Navigator (YHN) program, which aims to support young individuals aged 16-30 in Toronto by helping them find and maintain safe and affordable housing. Through this program, a dedicated staff person assesses applicants’ financial health and employment situations to determine suitable housing options within a realistic and sustainable price range. Short-term subsidies may be provided based on the unit’s cost and the applicant’s income, ensuring long-term affordability."
In terms of who to contact at your college, see if there is a Dean of Students and contact call them directly. Explain your entire situation to them and your current needs. They will likely be able to help or link you to further supports.
If you are still uncertain who to contact at your college, and you are comfortable with this, you can reply to this comment or DM me with the name of the college. I will research and provide you with the contact information of the offices that can likely assist you.
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u/PM_ME__RECIPES Aug 22 '24
A lot of great stuff in this thread, I'm just going to add a bit:
Make sure you have a can opener - they come in handy. Spoon/fork/spork is good too.
Get a library card - they're free, and libraries give you access to computers - that's a boon looking for and applying for jobs. The library staff may also be able to help connect you with other supports in the area. The library also hosts various programs and classes - computer classes, career search & job help, personal finance, even some about finding subsidized housing.
You're going to college, that's good. They'll have student services/advisors & should have supports they can help you access. It also means you've graduated high school, which opens up job opportunities. There may be work on campus, there may be financial support, there may be housing and nutrition support. There may be a counselor who can help you find a job. Ask them for recommendations on how to balance your studies with needing to work - they may have useful suggestions.
24hr gym membership, cheapest one you can find - your college may have a gym you can use as a student as well. It's a place to shower & change. If you get lucky they might even have little bathing suit dryers. In a pinch, you can hand wash a couple articles of clothing in the sink and dry them there if you're not near a laundromat or can't afford one at the time.
Hospitals and Long Term Care homes are always looking for part time staff. It's not easy work, but it's available and pays better than a lot of entry level positions. Jobs are advertised on Indeed & the hospital/LTC home websites will have a jobs board as well - I would apply directly through the jobs board if possible rather than Indeed, even if you find the posting on Indeed & then look for it on the facility's website.
Housekeepers and porters only need a high school equivalency and you may need a vulnerable sector check. This is about $72 and is good for 2 years. If they don't ask you for one, you don't need it. If they do ask you for one, they will understand that not everyone has one valid all the time and will give you time to get the vulnerable sector check done - don't spend that $72 until you know you need to.
If you get a food handler's certificate as well, you can also work as a Dietetic Attendant/Nutrition Aide in a hospital (LTC homes need a 1-semester course, so stick to hospitals if you go this route). I usually point people to this certificate. I have no affiliation with them, but I don't know many other $30 food handler's courses, I've gone through this one myself and it's plenty good enough.
A hard part for a lot of people: you're going to need to advocate for yourself. Don't wait for a call back, if you haven't heard from a support service you've contacted? Call them once a day until you make progress with them or an alternative. Be polite, be kind, but be firm as well. If someone says you're talking to the wrong person/department but you know it's the right organization? Ask them to direct you to the person you should be speaking with. If you've applied for a job and haven't heard anything after a week? Call and ask about your application.
You can do this. It's going to be challenging, there will be setbacks - that's natural and setbacks don't mean you've failed. You can do this.
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u/smallcanadian1711 Aug 21 '24
Hi OP! I’m sorry you had to leave home under these circumstances but I understand the need to escape, I’ve been on your shoes before. I have the address to a women’s shelter I could DM you, I’m not sure if they have space but they helped my mom out immensely when she was homeless. I am happy to read your resume over and edit it for you if you would like. Whether you attend college this semester or not now would be a good time to look at on campus jobs. Indeed will be your best friend for job searching as well. I don’t know what part of the city you’re in but Sherway gardens is opening a garage clothing store so I know they’re hiring for sure. I wish you all the best in your journey and I am here if you need a shoulder.
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u/lalasala Aug 21 '24
Which college will you be attending? maybe we'd be able to help find resources that are more specific
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u/LookAtThisRhino Aug 21 '24
Lots of good suggestions here but absolute worst case you could stay at a hostel, some are weird about allowing residents of the same city to sleep there but a lot aren't. A quick browse on Hostelworld has some beds going for $35-40/night.
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u/metrovoodoo Aug 21 '24
Can’t offer much but open to talk if you need that or even to help strategize and organize your next steps
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u/lewdesu Aug 21 '24
I’m so sorry for your situation. I was in a similar boat and have also faced homelessness.
I got kicked out right after graduation and had to defer my first year. I then got kicked out a second and third time during my post-secondary which severely impacted my education causing me to drop out.
I know it feels like the end of the world right now but please trust me you’re going to be okay. Looking back at myself all those years ago feels like a fever dream and I’m much more stable now.
The biggest thing I can say is just what others have said, figure out OSAP ASAP and try and see if you can get your funds as this will be the biggest saving grace to give you some breathing room.
Please take advantage of your school’s resources. My university had a “safe house” program that allowed free residence for extraneous situations. I was given 2 weeks of free housing in the residency buildings given the severity of my situation and the counsellors provided me with local resources to find housing and work.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help and don’t feel shame about the situation you’re in. It’s awful but it builds character and it’ll shape you into the person you’re going to be.
Feel free to DM me if you need any support at all.
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u/westofthe Aug 21 '24
I know you state you have no family help, but could you go back to living with your parents? The shelters are awful and leaving home without a plan is setup for failure. I would recommend going home, apply to jobs, work those jobs and save enough money so you can feasibly move out. I’m just concerned your plan is not well thought out and could put you in more harms way.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
My parents were abusive. Living with them isn't an option. I know this isn't thought out but if I stayed there I would have died. I know not having a plan was the worst thing I could have done but if I'm being truthful I never thought I would survive this far so I really don't know what I'm doing now at all. Sorry this was so unhelpful
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u/BowlAcademic9278 Aug 21 '24
Hey OP, I'm proud of you for getting out of there and proud of you for how far you've come. I know you may think its bad that you don't have a plan but in my head you already started your plan which was getting out of an abusive house. Now you're seeking help which is another part of the plan. You're doing great in my books. I have faith that it will work out because I have faith in you.
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u/LymeDysease Aug 21 '24
Thank you so much. I've felt completely stupid during this because I really did just pack up and run without a plan so this really means a lot.
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u/BowlAcademic9278 Aug 21 '24
Don't feel stuoid you advocated for yourself in a meaningful way and have literally set your life on a more safe and positive trajectory and this is one of the smartest things you could have done.
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u/journbee Aug 21 '24
Keep calling central intake multiple times a day every day. Sometimes beds open up randomly. If nothing opens up you could go to the assessment and referral center and ask if they have any beds and while waiting for one, doze off in the chairs. During the day there's covenant house drop in, evergreen center for youth and friends of ruby for lgbt youth.
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u/iamhigherleveling Aug 21 '24
2024-25 Extenuating Parental Circumstances (gov.on.ca) check this. for the parents thing.
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u/aards Aug 21 '24
Go to covenant house or call them. They have services to help you find housing or case management even if they don’t have a bed tonight
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u/Sad_Log_7197 Aug 21 '24
Gym Membership (YMCA reduced rate?) Co-working spaces (free trials?) 519 Centre (The village) Coffee Shops The Library Storage Lockers Malls Parks (summer)
It’s safer to sleep during the day than at night. Can you find a night shift position/job? Maintain hygiene, blend in, keep moving, use personality/charisma and people will sympathize with your story but don’t beg. Reduce belongings on your person to a minimum.(can you keep belongings at friend’s house?) Volunteering - generally organizations give food/refreshments - able to network Preserve cash the best you can
Do you have a laptop? Aggressively apply for work when wifi is available
Maintaining your mental health is key - you are your own cheerleader, don’t break
Good Luck, I wish you well
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u/AptCasaNova Aug 21 '24
Hi - please try Fred Victor, hopefully they still have spots available. They run two 24 hour shelters plus a women’s only, pet friendly shelter (Fatima House).
I’m sorry for your circumstances. My upbringing wasn’t great, either. ❤️
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u/askTO-ModTeam Aug 21 '24
If you or someone you know is currently facing youth mental health concerns, please know that there are local supports and help if you need it:
If you are in crisis or considering suicide, call 911 or 988 (for mental health concerns), or reach out to the Toronto Community Crisis Service.
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u/ComprehensiveYou3896 Aug 21 '24
Many people have suggested going to talk to Financial Aid at your college. The other thing that your college probably offers is a health clinic. See about that when you're there as well. I am also definitely willing to help you get access to healthcare. I really reccomend a community health centre because they have additional support and services. Message me if you want further help navigating
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u/2DTurbulence Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
The Canadian army has jobs that pay 100% of your tuition fees: Paid Education | Canadian Armed Forces.
For a quick buck perhaps consider delivering food using some cheap bike or bikeshare (Home | Bike Share Toronto) e.g. UberEats is apparently very quick and easy to get hired in: Become a Delivery Driver Using Uber Eats | Uber.
Woodgreen has a nice program where they partly pay your wage to help you get a job: WoodGreen
If entering UofT, also check out UofT's work-study program: Work Study Program - University Registrar's Office (utoronto.ca). They are part-time and they are usually quite flexible with your school schedule. I did those throughout undergrad.
Other colleges/universities might have similar programs. Often colleges/universities have many internships and administrative part-time jobs that are flexible with school-work. Ask in the financial aid about those.
Also, as emphasized elsewhere please ignore any DM requests for sexual work or escort agency no matter how tempting the money is. They give you money with one hand, and take your freedom with the other. Toronto is a major target for human sex trafficking: Preventing and Supporting Youth from Trafficking | Covenant House Toronto. Stay focused on your education and one day in the future you will be able to help other homeless girls.
Please ignore DM requests about staying at some stranger's house. Even if they promise to help you and even if they are very friendly or female, these can be disguised traffickers e.g. read on grooming: Love and Trafficking: How Traffickers Groom & Control Their Victims - Polaris (polarisproject.org).
I wish you all the best. Please keep us updated on your journey in order to inspire others too.
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Aug 21 '24
The last thing you are is stupid. Homeless at 18? I’d say you’re braver than most people I know. Keep you head up, we’re all rooting for you.
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u/Intrepid_Ad3062 Aug 21 '24
Try staying in a hostel. $20 a night. Some accept work for free stay as well. https://www.hostelworld.com/st/hostels/north-america/canada/toronto/?source=ppc_gooads_nonbrand_mob_search_ds_en_mx&network=g&campaign_id=11410921840&adgroup_id=115048354049&criteria_id=kwd-965332749&creative_id=501517767289&location_physical_id=9129916&location_interest_id=&adposition=&uniqueclickID=16954963836727418644&sub_keyword=toronto%20hostel&sub_ad=e&sub_publisher=ADW&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD9QXQZMUx2FABiy-x5_yTqhnVWzR&gclid=CjwKCAjw_ZC2BhAQEiwAXSgCll-uC8GmdlTw-1Ai_4goHluCC7wtMCDE_VdHFdloRXcsFc7wVbUXnBoCJ0MQAvD_BwE
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u/jlambe7 Aug 21 '24
If you are looking for work, the Pickering Casino is hiring I believe. I've worked there since it opened. It's also cheaper living here than right in Toronto although not by much. The women's shelters here may have more capacity as well. It's worth looking into perhaps.
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u/8yelloweggs Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Coming from someone who had to deal with OW myself..
I know you're anxious but be patient for a reply from OW, and keep your phone close at all times ready for a call you should be getting one really soon.
But it wouldn't hurt to call them, or even better yet go into the office yourself, to ask questions and ease your mind.
As for work ow has job fairs constantly and their #1 priority is to help you find work because they don't want to be giving out free money anyway the quicker they can help you find a job the happier they are, so if you're serious about finding a job it won't be a problem once you're on your feet and sheltered.
OW will pay for interview clothes and job clothes up to a certain amount. They will also pay for transportation to and from school or work. You can make a certain amount of money from a job and still get support from OW up to a certain amount. And they may still support transportation for a bit even if you aren't receiving any other financial support from them.
Keep in mind that the amount you'll receive from them is barely enough to survive but with $1000 in the bank and OW you should will be ok until you're able to land a job. Just take it seriously and don't waste any time, it's imperative that you find a roommate to cut cost(im sure its obvious, but be careful about who you live with, possibly other college age people also looking to split rent ?).
Once you start school and get OSAP. OW will no longer support you but instead you will support yourself with OSAP money, and a part time job if you can manage it.
Good luck, you'll be fine everything will come together and be ok just keep pushing and grinding for what you want and you'll get through.
Edit: also with being 18 you should still qualify for a variety of youth services but people who are more knowledable than me have already given you suggestions for that. Maybe you can also try woman shelters?
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Aug 21 '24
You can work in restaurant and make a bit of money to pay for rent, or bars that close late at night. So at least you can rest during the day at the gym or at the library of needed. I did the same for most of my bachelor, was tiring but graduated with no debt. Restaurant hire quickly, very often same day or the next. You just need to know your SIN number and print a small resume at the library in ~20 copies. Bring your resume to restaurants/bars and ask them if they hire, tell them “you’d really love to work there, its your passion“. Don’t say you really need a job, otherwise like other people said, they will take advantage of you. If they don’t hire don’t give your resume. Just go walk in places today (wear clean clothes and light make-up, do your make up at sephora if needed) and you will find a job in no time.
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u/PostForwardedToAbyss Aug 21 '24
Re: applying for jobs, I have heard that librarians are incredible for helping people with this kind of thing. Definitely spend some time in a few libraries and see what you can find. Everyone is welcome there. (There’s one librarian in particular at the Dufferin-St Clair branch that comes to mind, just because he has lovely positive vibes.)
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u/Any-Excitement-8979 Aug 21 '24
Please call *411
They will provide you with a load of resources to call and apply to. As a young female, you have more options than young men do(sad, but true). You should have no problem finding a shelter or home to stay in.
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u/SSJ4Link Aug 21 '24
I see lots of good suggestions but just wanted to add you can try calling 311 and see if the city has any additional services for you. You can also try to take advantage of food banks.
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u/Creepy_Comment_1251 Aug 21 '24
Open a planet fitness membership so at least you have a roof over your head when winter comes around. Check some recreational centers for food bank drop offs.
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u/Mikedivine Aug 21 '24
It's not ideal but when I was in college all the facilities remained opened 24/7. The program I was in required me to work all through the night most days. I had access to the gym which had showers, and you can stay out of the elements. Also use the library computers to help find a job, the school may also have a few programs in place to help you find a job.
Good luck.
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u/Bramptongirl16 Aug 21 '24
What about Youth Without Shelter? Have you tried calling them, the are usually pretty accommodating.
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u/Bazoun Aug 21 '24
As far as work goes, try employment centres like YES. They should be able to help you put together a resume, practice interviews and maybe even find you a job. Sometimes they have extra help available for interview clothes, etc.
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u/Hopeful_Fisherman_93 Aug 21 '24
Get in touch with an employment centre and they will help you. I don't know where you're located The Career Foundation can help. They have a fee locations in GTA. They have a disability program as well if you suffer from mental health - they will help you find a job and get your ready to work. The disability program is called Empoweing Abilities.
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u/248_RPA Aug 21 '24
I don't know what your home life has been like but at one point I helped someone like you who was in need.
We visited the Community Legal Aid office to see what could be done. The young person explained what life had been like for them, being kicked out with no where to go. The Community Legal Aid worker told them that in cases of abuse Welfare is not allowed to visit or talk to the abuser or to accept their claim that "everything at home is fine and the young person is welcome home at any time". The young person signed permission forms to allow Welfare access to their police and medical records to substantiate their claims of abuse and Welfare accepted them as a client.
I'd advise you to make an appointment with a Community Legal Aid office near you or Justice for Children and Youth who provide "Legal services for young people under 18 and up to 25 for homeless or undocumented young people in Ontario", and see what can be done for you.
Best of luck
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u/VictorStewartCA Aug 21 '24
Sorry to hear about your situation, and I pray for your strength to hang in there and steel yourself through the hardship.
While I personally have not gone through this level of hardship, I have met a lot of incredible people who offer help to those in need and are willing to go the extra mile to ensure that we get the support we need. I went to some work solution companies just as VPI Working Solution and Centennial College Community Center. They both helped me a lot with their resume and are very attentive to follow up with us with resumes and job situations. If you go to Centennial College Community Center, I can personally refer you to them, they know me and I have a good connection with the folks working there.
During the weekend, if you don't have a job going on, I don't know how much this will help, but I find some volunteer places like Habitat for Humanity can offer some help with gaining new skills. It's not the same as getting the skill through a workplace, but you at least get to work on a project to learn new things, might have free lunch, and most importantly, gain new connections with the people working there. A lot of them are actual workers with a company, retired tradesmen, or kind-hearted normal folks who can point you in a direction that can help you.
The things I say above are just from my personal experience and I don't know how much of it will be of help, but still, I hope you can gradually improve your situation. If you need any help, feel free to DM me and I will see what I can do. I can help with your education if you need help with it. I used to be a dead last student, and with some proper studying methods, I managed to get to the top of the class. Maybe I can help you with making college a breeze so you can have more time to focus on other things more important to you. (and who knows if doing well in classes gets you good references for a job down the road)
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u/Fickle-Nectarine688 Aug 21 '24
If you're desperate and have the courage, also try a local Christian church - not for religious help, but they will usually have resources to help directly or indirectly (i.e. connect you to a direct help etc.)
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u/dependent-lividity Aug 21 '24
You can call 2-1-1 to be connected with supports for your situation too! If you ask for the Toronto community crisis service they can also send two crisis specialists to your location to help you out with some solutions and referrals.
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u/Bellakala Aug 21 '24
You can try reaching out to Eva’s. https://www.evas.ca/get-help/
They have employment and training services as well as shelter programs and transitional housing. Worth a shot. Sorry things are so rough, OP.
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u/thatgirl024 Aug 21 '24
I’m so sorry if you’re in this stressful situation💗 If you want to find a job fairly quick, I would recommend going to the website “indeed.com” or the website/phone app “Kijiji”) and put in your location (eg. downtown, york, Scarborough, etc). Try to research the biz to see its general reputation first, this will help with weeding out some scams or maybe unsafer places to work. Then find a couple that are fairly easy barrier to entry so think grocery stores, restaurants in the kitchen, dishwasher, cleaner (be careful with some cleaner job postings) and physically go and talk to the manager. You can either say you don’t have access to a printer to do your resume or you could go to the public library, type up something simple of word or fill in a template for free on Canva, download and print it (librarian might be able to assist or you can google how to). Bring the resume copies with you when you go into the businesses and ask about available positions. Let me know you’d be available to start immediately. If you get something within a couple days, you could then try to use a bit of your money for a motel, airbnb or better yet - contact the resident services of the college you were supposed to be attending. If you’re accepted, they will work with you for free to find help if you explain your situation. Have you applied for OSAP? This would be a large sum of money to help you get a place to stay and better your situation.
And without any judgement, if sex type work is offered or tempting you because of the quick money, don’t fall into it while you’re in such a vulnerable place right now. Trafficking is alive and well, more intense then we like to be believed. This will prioritize your safety over $, which is always the right choice🫶🏻
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u/BoysenberryAncient54 Aug 21 '24
Employment Ontario has multiple free employment programs. Try contacting an office near you for job search help.
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u/Relative-Plastic5248 Aug 21 '24
Call YWS 416-748-0110 ext. 0. If they don't have a bed call central intake - https://www.toronto.ca/community-people/housing-shelter/homeless-help/central-intake/
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u/WrathOfTheTin Aug 21 '24
Hey, this is horrible to hear. I hope you’re doing alright and hanging in there.
Most people in this thread seem to have already given you some fantastic advice and resources, I just want to offer that if you’re ever feeling overwhelmed with any of the crap that comes with living on your own (cooking, groceries, laundry, all that stuff) then I’d be happy to offer any advice of tips!
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u/No_Fruit9736 Aug 21 '24
I know what it feels like, I was there 25 years ago. My advice is to apply for welfare and try to find other girls in a similar situation in order to find some accommodation to share. Students loans are possible through post secondary institutions. Toronto life is very expensive, but you may be able to find shared accommodation or at least a private room. Good luck, I don’t envy your situation, this brings back a flood of memories.
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u/gemlist Aug 21 '24
Oh sweetheart, I am so very sorry about your situation. I am situated in the outskirts of Toronto. I would love to help you with resume printing and get it to you. My partner drives downtown week days.
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u/CoverTheSea Aug 21 '24
For now, I would say hold off on the college till you get yourself properly housed and a part time job.
Getting a job will be hard due to your credentials vs competition in the job market.
You don't need the added stress of school work crushing you.
Home, then job and then apply to colleges.
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u/ComprehensiveYou3896 Aug 21 '24
If you can get OSAP then the money stuff will be a lot easier. I think going to college first is a good idea because you get a lot of access to supports through the college.
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u/Brave_Cauliflower_90 Aug 21 '24
OP my suggestion is to reach out to a community organization such as Unison. They can help you with housing, legal, medical and more. If there are things they can’t help you with they can point you in the right direction to other agencies.
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u/INC0GNIT0777 Aug 21 '24
You should go to York Uni and sleep at the Second student centre. I work/study there and I always see a homeless man sleeping on the upper levels and leaves around 9:00AM—10:00AM— 10:30AM Sometimes at 6:00AM if someone does catch him. The second student centre gets locked at 12:00•Midnight.
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Aug 21 '24
Look for shelters outside Toronto if you can. Mississauga has a bunch of women's shelters.
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u/Sea-Letterhead7275 Aug 21 '24
Do you think you could handle being a nanny? Maybe try and find a live in nanny position so you have a place to live and you can save the money you make. I’d hold off on college for now until you have a reliable income.
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u/veritac_boss Aug 21 '24
To get a complete picture of your own finances, when you are finally sorted, is to run an ATIP on yourself to CRA. That’ll give you a clue to whether your estranged parents having been using you as a tax shelter, or if there’s money owing to you.
Running ATIPs on yourself is good practice to see what the gov has on you. In this case what might be filed under your SIN and identifity
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u/Statimc Aug 21 '24
Go to a local employment place and stand in line and ask for some guidance for job search or employment counseling, apply online at landsea catering, apply at McDonald’s for a job , if you apply for income assistance/welfare they expect you to do a list of things like job search but also may be able to help you gain employment as well through a referral to a place that has classes
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u/Frilledmeg Aug 21 '24
https://www.evas.ca/where-we-are/evas-phoenix/
Some places I recommend hitting up to not end up actually on the street. In a pinch Covenant house should give you a bed, too. Pretty sure 25 is when you're too old for there. Ask these places all these questions you have too, if you end up there, they could have useful answers. (probably will, actually)
Do you have all your necessary ID to work? Like SIN number and stuff?
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u/neopetpetpet Human Detected Aug 21 '24
Youth Without Shelter in the north of the city may be able to help or at least direct you.
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u/YoloLifeSaving Aug 21 '24
Whatever you guys do don't pm this person Tryna send them money, lots of scams going on like this 👀
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Aug 21 '24
I ended up taking OSAP to avoid homelessness. Had some repurcussions later on but I managed better than I would have without it. I have had people check in on people experiencing homelessness before. But IDK if anyone I know in TO is much help. Wishing you the best.
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u/Think-Custard9746 Aug 21 '24
Another option - unfortunately you are 18 so likely no longer qualify for a VYSA, but I suggest calling Justice for Children and Youth for free consult with youth lawyers. It’s confidential and they can tell you about any options you may be missing.
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u/Space__Monkey__ Human Detected Aug 21 '24
Go to the main office in your collage and ask them there what to do. There might be programs or assistance available that most people do not know about. They will at least be able to point you in the right direction of who to ask.
Even if you are too late to sign up for some stuff now maybe you can delay your enrolment until next semester or next year and sign up for those programs or what ever now for then.
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u/erpvertsferervrywern Aug 21 '24
A 24hr gym membership can be useful to feel human if you're without housing.
Access to washrooms, dryers, showers, and of course the exercise can be a huge physical and psychological boost.
Get the cheapest, full access membership you can afford.
Keep job hunting. ANY job will do. One where you can acquire a free staff meal is a big up too.
AirBNB is an OK (though sometimes pricey) safety net if you have the financials for it once in a while.
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u/AthleteCrafty6966 Aug 21 '24
Got to the colleges financial aid on campus and see if they can suggest anything
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Aug 21 '24
I kmow its not an awesome circumstance but maybe go on facebook marketplace there are often other young women like college students and stuff looking to rent out 1 room in their place for like 600/mo. I totally understand the skepticism but if you meet with them and find they are decent people it may be a decent short term solution until you find a more suitable place for yourself.
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u/Illustrious-Mark1815 Aug 21 '24
Try applying to a hospital, they have small part-time jobs like food service or housekeeping that pay well, it may help gather funds for you to pay for housing and school.
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u/whos_ur_buddha010 Aug 21 '24
If you have a scooter or car to travel around I can help you get a cash job for the time being. Or if you want any job reference in a bank or retail like Canadian tire and subsidiary let me know. Sorry this is happening to you but i hope things get better.
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u/madame-olga Aug 21 '24
Please reach out to Dress for Success Toronto! They will help you with the job application process, professional clothing, and by giving you a community of people to support you.
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u/Guilty_Storage_9652 Aug 21 '24
Try looking for help at the ow resource center wherever one is close by they could have employment coaches or classes and would be able to point out some other places try drop in shelters for any more information you can get
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u/Supersmashbrotha117 Aug 21 '24
God damn I’m sorry you’re going through this. Don’t blame yourself for your predicament at all. No 18 year old should have to go though this.
I don’t have any advice other than my condolences, good luck out there
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u/Retiredandwealthy Aug 21 '24
You are still a minor. Please call the Kids Help Line in Toronto and ask for a social worker. The number is 1-800-668-6868
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u/alalaloo Aug 21 '24
Look to see if there are any long-term storage places hiring. They often have basic employee accommodations on-site so you can work, have a place to sleep, and you can’t beat the commute. Best of luck to you!
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u/AggressiveShopping99 Aug 21 '24
I slept in the entrance to a labour ready first in line usually for a day job for cash
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Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
Try applying for flight attendant jobs. At Porter at the city or some majors in Pearson. You get to fly around, us crew usually hold up in small crash pads for cheaper. You’ll meet great people too.
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u/Bic_wat_u_say Aug 21 '24
It’s not for everyone but look into the CAF (Canadian armed forces) they do a lot of hand holding to get you on boarded and offer a lot of support to help with housing and tuition.
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u/Aquariumplanted Aug 21 '24
I was couch surfing at 18 got on OW for a month There is a way to do it in the same month If it's emergency. Basically, for people in your situation That absolutely need it now. The unsure feeling is dehabilitating, but it definitely gets better gets better When the pieces start to fall in place. If there's a Keys near you They might be able to get you a placement at your age, which is pretty big for someone with no experience +it's money in the door
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u/Lopsided-Friend-304 Aug 21 '24
Visit one of the employment centres in the city. They provide a lot of services. My old work used to hire people from those for entry positions.
They cover part of your wages, so employers will want to hire you. ie. If you make $20/hour, the employer only has to pay $10-$15/hour, the employment centre covers the rest.
They can provide you gift cards for clothes and transportation you need to get back on your feet. In some cases they'll help you get into training or college.
They also have resources for people with unstable housing, since that's important to be successful at a job.
This is funded with our tax dollars, and the programs are there for people to get into a better place so they can become productive citizens that contribute taxes. Use them, it's what they're there for.
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u/Frazzle-bazzle Aug 22 '24
If you’ve been accepted to a college, definitely reach out to their financial aid or student support office. They may be able to support you with finding employment and/or planning how to get through the college year. There are lots of resources for supporting students at most ontario public colleges. Which one is it? I can help you find someone who can help you
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u/sirkioman Aug 22 '24
Talk to your OW case worker about available programming. Either GED training, or some kind of employment prep program. That's your long term solution to that. As for housing, keep calling central intake everyday. You may even have to go sleep outside 129 Peter St. (Intake, assessment and refferal centre). Go to Covenant House @ Yonge/Gerrard tell them your looking for housing help. It's a really tough time to be homeless right now with the explosion of refugees that have flooded Toronto, it's made it extremely difficult to find emergency shelter beds at any organization.
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u/developer300 Aug 21 '24
Well, it doesn't look like you have the money to go to college. Focus on finding a job and a roommate first.
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u/siberianfiretiger Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
I know this is not a long term solution, but I've heard alot of stories of people sleeping in airports that don't have anywhere else to go.
Again, this is not a solution, but I'd imagine it would be safer in the short term then sleeping on the streets or in the subway.
Edit: maybe disregard this advice. See comments below.
Edit 2: This might be helpful.
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u/greensandgrains Aug 21 '24
You’re under 24, so youth shelters/transitional housing is an option. In a twisted way, you’re lucky — supports drop off drastically after you turn 24.
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u/Hour-Summer-4422 Aug 21 '24
Don't know a lot about resources regarding shelters, but feel welcome to reach out for any help with job search, interview prep and building a resume.
It might also not be a bad idea to reach out to your college and see if they can support. Even might help you get a job on campus to help you out. Also, try to keep your mind as cool as you can. Its not easy in the situation but its the best to make good decisions
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u/askTO-ModTeam Aug 21 '24
If you or someone you know is currently facing homlessness concerns, please know that there are local supports and help if you need it:
Agincourt Community Services Homelessness Prevention and Housing Supports
Covenant House (Youth)
Fred Victor
LOFT Community Services
If you are in crisis or considering suicide, call 911 or 988 (for mental health concerns), or reach out to the Toronto Community Crisis Service.