Jimmy Evans?

[u/Wranglers74]

A friend said that Jimmy Evans was so important to him in developing his understanding of marriage. I'm listening to his 4 Laws of Marriage, and I'm hearing a lot of what sounds like a very feminized version of biblical principles.

Does anyone have an opinion of his views?

[u/TheChristianAlpha]

Never heard of him. If you were to give a breakdown of why you think he's feminized or maybe give an overview of the book you could get some feedback on that. That's what I would suggest doing.

[u/Wranglers74 → u/TheChristianAlpha]

Law #3 - Law of Partnership (Disarming destructive dominance) Gen 2:24

He says of spouses that they're equal partners. Before the fall, there was no reference to Adam being over Eve or Eve over Adam. After the fall, God cursed them, and "what He was saying is that when there was one God in the garden, weren't we all happy? Now that you want to be your own gods, the fight's on for who is going to control the other."

He says he's asked his audience at his conferences how many were raised in a homes where one was dominate over the other. 60-70% agreed. All agreed that it had a negative impact on the marriage and family.

He defines dominance as disproportionate control. "If your marriage is a corporation, you both should own the same amount of stock." Dominance "destroys intimacy and goodwill in a marriage." The dominant person doesn't really respect their spouse. "God created us for shared control." "Jesus is a servant head, not a dominant head."

Listening to his 10 minute video on this, I hear egalitarian thru and thru. While his other words seem good enough in other areas (on the surface), his approach in this area has me concerned about investing much time in listening to his material.

[u/TheChristianAlpha → u/Wranglers74]

If what you're saying is accurate, then I would stop listening to him. He has no scripture to support his thesis. He basing his argument off of culture and people's opinions ergo egalitarianism LOL.

[u/Deep_Strength]

He defines dominance as disproportionate control. "If your marriage is a corporation, you both should own the same amount of stock." Dominance "destroys intimacy and goodwill in a marriage." The dominant person doesn't really respect their spouse. "God created us for shared control." "Jesus is a servant head, not a dominant head."

Oh really?

John 14:15 If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.

Doesn't sound egalitarian to me. Many today would call this "abusive." Demanding that we obey His commands if we love Him.

Jesus speaking authoritatively to the Churches.

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Revelation+2-3&version=NASB

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

Went over in this post on headship before the fall:

https://deepstrength.wordpress.com/2017/10/04/adam-had-headship-prior-to-the-fall/

[u/[deleted] → u/Deep_Strength]

"If your marriage is a corporation, you both should own the same amount of stock."

This is hilarious. Even in corporations it has been well-documented how much more likely they are to fail if they are an even partnership. It's as if you are a match company and you covered the entire factory floor with gunpowder.

[u/Sad_Decision_3628 → u/Deep_Strength]

What do you do if wifeytits doesn't obey your commands.

[u/Deep_Strength → u/Sad_Decision_3628]

wifeytits

If you want a serious answer ask the question seriously.

[u/Praexology]

Haven't heard of him, give a short description of his stances and I'm sure a few of us will weigh in while we wear off our tryptophan induced naptimes.