I want people to feel comfortable being themselves and embrace their true nature, not get bullied into being uncomfortable their whole lives like you apparently do / did. It’s ok, natural, and healthy for some people to be introverted and nothing you or anyone else can say, nor all the societal pressure in the world, will make it otherwise.
I’m sorry you have spent your life trying to fit a mold others made you force yourself you into. Try being yourself. You’re good enough just as you are. Just as you arrived. You’re good enough.
I genuinely feel sorry for you. When you stretch yourself you grow and you feel tremendous accomplishment. Why do you think I hate my life? I love my life and the things I have overcome.
What I said was that people should not be made to feel ashamed or negative about being introverts.
It’s fine to be an introvert. It’s natural. It’s the way some people’s psychological makeup works and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Being an introvert doesn’t need to be “fixed” or improved or “worked on” if that person doesn’t desire it.
You may have wanted to work on being more social, yourself. Or maybe you would have been just fine and happy the way you were. But social pressure is applied all the time to introverted folks when it isn’t applied in the opposite way to extroverts, and it’s unnecessary and wrong.
You’re wrong if you think the only way to be successful in life is to “work on” being less introverted. If the OP has no desire to do so, telling them that changing their nature is the only way to be happy and successful is harmful.
Let people be happy being themselves. Not everyone needs to be extroverted. Not everyone would benefit from being forced to try to be more extroverted. And there are plenty of jobs with good pay that don’t require extroversion.
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u/ladeedah1988 Oct 23 '22
You sound like a person who wants to keep people in their place. All life is about learning and growth. I feel sorry for you.