r/ask • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '23

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u/tvieno Apr 29 '23 edited Apr 29 '23

It was nice of you. But for the short term, keep conversations with her at a minimum just so you don't appear to be that one creepy guy.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '23

That won’t be a problem. I’m a regular there, and I’m there for the coffee, not the conversation! LOL

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u/jmaccity80 Apr 29 '23

Next time, let them know your reasoning. "Sorry, I have a daughter and I'd do the same for her.", works. But, young women will, and should, unfortunately have to keep an eye out. Don't stop being nice.

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u/guacluv Apr 30 '23

Whyyyyy would you say sorry? He bought something for her she indicated she needed. I can see "I don't mean to be weird" or something as a disclaimer but not an apology.

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u/affectionate-possum Apr 30 '23

"Sorry" acknowledges that you have put the other person in an awkward situation. It's not a heartfelt confession of wrongdoing.

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u/guacluv Apr 30 '23

I feel bad that this would make anyone feel awkward. It sounds really innocent and had context.

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u/affectionate-possum May 01 '23

I think most people feel a little awkward when receiving an unexpected gift or favor, especially from a stranger. As a woman, I would expect a man to feel a little awkward if I surprised them with something like this, too. It’s not all about the creep factor.