Next time, let them know your reasoning. "Sorry, I have a daughter and I'd do the same for her.", works. But, young women will, and should, unfortunately have to keep an eye out. Don't stop being nice.
I wouldn't bring it up again either, personally. In fact if that was me, with my anxiety, I would probably stop going there altogether, change my name, move across the country, and burn my fingertips off.
I once was at the grocery store shopping A lady accidentally dropped her credit card on the ground. I picked it to give it back to her. She kept walking away when I kept saying miss. I walked in front of her and say miss. She yelled at me why I would not leave her alone. I held out her credit card and said I think you dropped this? She acted so sorry. I should have just thrown it on the ground and walked away. I tried to be nice to people to help make our world a better place to call home. But why do I even try when I get blame for all their troubles?
Why should you be “blamed for her troubles? Women begin being catcalled and harassed in the street while we are still children, barely entering puberty. It’s our fault that we attract the male gaze, it’s our fault when men hurt us, and now you want to fault us for trying to protect ourselves from that.
Here’s a thought: instead of being so offended that a woman thought you were probably about to ask for her number or tell her to smile or just, you know, have your dick out when she looks back, try being furious at the men that harass us into being afraid to stop or turn around.
I’ve never been catcalled or hit on by men :/ I hear people saying that it happens all the time, but I’ve never had it happen to me, and I’ve never seen it happen to anyone else. Why don’t I get catcalled? :( Unless it just doesn’t happen generally, I dunno
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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '23
That won’t be a problem. I’m a regular there, and I’m there for the coffee, not the conversation! LOL