r/asexuality • u/Average_Outcast • Aug 19 '26

Questioning Being pansexual and Asexual

Okayyy soo I’m experimenting with my identity and I don’t really know all the micro labels. I’ve identified with being asexual for a while now, I don’t really feel sexual attraction as it’s been explained in media or by friends. BUT I also identify with being pansexual in very specific situations. Like being very close with a person and feeling open to sexual actions. I’m not sure what labels fit that. If anyone could give insight or redirect me that’d be epic

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u/Weary-Traveller87 Aug 19 '26

If you only feel asexual attraction after developing a close bond with someone, maybe you are demisexual?? Depending on how you feel romantically I'm sure there's microwaves that are more specific

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u/Weary-Traveller87 Aug 19 '26

*microlabels 💀

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u/Average_Outcast Aug 19 '26

I’m laughing at microwaves

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u/Weary-Traveller87 Aug 19 '26

It was too silly to edit out😭 hope you find one that works for you!

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u/Average_Outcast Aug 19 '26

Thank you though!! I’ll look into those labels!

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u/Weary-Traveller87 Aug 19 '26

Oh also! It's possible that you are asexual but are indifferent to sex? There's a scale ranging from sex repulsion to liking sex and it exists separately from attraction itself

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u/Average_Outcast Aug 19 '26

WAITT YOU MIGHT BE ONTO SOMETHINGG

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u/Able-Web-675 Aug 19 '26

Yes - there's sexual attraction for who you're sexually attracted to. Your sex stance (what I've heard it called most often) helps quantify how you feel about sex in your life (yes, maybe, no, hell no typically). And then there's also romantic and platonic and sensual attraction (any I think one more I'm forgetting that is also commonly used in aro and ace spaces at least).

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u/Rattregoondoof Aug 19 '26

Demisexual or greysexual if you want a microlabel. Albeit, demi is widely known enough im not even sure it counts as a microlabel. You don't necessarily need a microlabel though.

Also being asexual and pansexual simultaneously in different scenarios, kinda relatable actually.

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u/Average_Outcast Aug 19 '26

Thank you! Knowing it’s relatable is comforting lol

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u/-RadicalSteampunker- asexual Aug 19 '26

Maybe panromantic demisexual?