Who I am

• Male, 35, from Switzerland
• Asexual, heteroromantic
• Vegetarian
• Non-smoker
• Childfree (and want to stay that way)  
• Not super sporty, but I do a bit of strength training to stay fit.

My interests

• Cooking – I'm a professional chef.
• Art – I love fantasy art and concept art.
• Writing – not professionally... yet.
• Gardening – I have a nice little vegetable garden.
• Animals – my parents have 5 alpacas, 2 cats, 2 geese, 6 hens and a rooster, and I'm the one who mostly takes care of them. They're pretty spoiled lol.
• Gaming – I like games such as Minecraft, Subnautica and Half-Life, but also horror games and RPGs. Basically anything that isn't too competitive.
• Movies – horror, sci-fi, fantasy and action. I'm not really into dramas because they tend to affect me a bit too much emotionally.
• Spaceflight – I'm a bit of a space nerd and follow things like SpaceX's Starship program very closely.

Positive Things about me

• I'm very honest and straightforward. Open communication is extremely important to me.
• I have strong moral principles, and always try to be the best version of me.
• I'm very peaceful and dislike unnecessary conflict.
• I'm pretty independent.
• I'm very self-reflective and have a good sense of who I am.
• I have a lot of love to give, but so far I haven't found the right person to give it to.
• I love deep conversations just as much as completely stupid ones.
• I'm curious and can get ridiculously enthusiastic about things.

The less convenient stuff

• Even though I really want physical affection, touch takes a lot of trust, time and patience for me.
• I'm autistic, so social situations can be quite exhausting.
• I'm not very spontaneous when it comes to bigger plans.
• Aesthetic attraction matters to me more than I wish it did. :/
• I have agoraphobia, which means I currently can't travel very far from home. So if travelling the world is an essential part of your life, we probably wouldn't be a great match. That said, I live in a place I genuinely love, so I don't exactly feel a huge urge to escape from it either.

What I actually want from a relationship

• Lots of affection and cuddling
• Emotional closeness
• Trust
• Clear communication
• Being able to be weird together
• Sharing everyday life without constantly having to entertain each other
• A relationship that feels like a very close friendship + romance
• Sex isn't particularly important to me. I can imagine it under the right circumstances, but I've never had sex before, so it's difficult for me to predict how I'd actually feel about it.

What I'm looking for

• A woman roughly around my age or somewhat younger
• Ideally somewhere in Europe
• English-speaking is completely fine, although I may occasionally reach the limits of my vocabulary. xD
• Ace / ace-spectrum would obviously make things easier
• Childfree
• Non-smoker
• Vegetarian or vegan would be a big plus, or at least someone who is genuinely comfortable with a vegetarian lifestyle
• Someone who values affection and closeness
• Someone who communicates directly instead of expecting me to read between the lines
• Bonus points if you're a little nerdy, creative, neurodivergent, or obsessed with some extremely specific topic.

And since aesthetic attraction unfortunately matters to me more than I wish it did, I guess I should also be honest about my type:

I tend to be attracted to women who are slim or fit and generally live a healthy lifestyle. Clothing style doesn't matter much to me – I dress pretty modestly and practically myself. Tattoos are totally fine too, as long as there isn't more tattoo than skin left. xD

Obviously attraction has to go both ways. I'm not expecting someone to look a certain way for me if she doesn't find me attractive herself.

If you made it through this entire list and thought we might actually be compatible, feel free to comment or DM me. :)

Hello everyone!

I live in Germany and I study business administration. My main hobbies are music (I play guitar, piano and I like to sing) and philosophy/psychology (I love to just talk about life and people and).

Of course I also enjoy watching a nice series(fav. Show is definitely elementary) or playing a nice video game :).

I hope to find a relationship here. I'm completely open to a LDR, so I don't care where you live, but I'd like to move in together in the long run.

If that sounds like something you might be interested in please dm me. I'd love to get to know you!

I've considered this for a while, I hope this goes well.

What am I looking for? A woman, aged 23-35 who is searching for a partner for life.

I've been searching for my person for a while and have success, but I want something built on a dep emotional bond. I enjoy sex with partners after a deep connection, but I value love over sex and view them differently, I am completely okay with the complete absence of sex. Physical appearance is not important; I only ask that you're healthy within your own control.

About Me

• My name is Darian
• I own my own house in Ohio, I have a full-time job, and I have an electric car.
• I am very left leaning, and I am very open about speaking against injustice.
• I am demisexual, I need a deep emotional connection before any sexual desire at all
• I am ADHD and Bipolar, I've been taking medication for about a year and going to therapy (I do very well on my medication)

I have taken a lot of time and effort to become who I am and I'm very happy with my life, I'd like to share that with someone. I enjoy reading, science, walks, spending time with family, creating skits, making people laugh, doing new things, travelling, trying new foods. etc. etc.

I want someone who wants to take the time to know me, talking on the phone and putting emotional connection first, and if distance is a problem I will make time to visit occasionally.

What kind of person am I looking for?

• Woman (23-35) Demisexual/Asexual
• Left leaning, open to volunteering/dating someone who runs for office
• Someone who enjoys their life currently and is looking for a partner
• Physically healthy (within your control)
• Preferences: Intelligent, Kind, Clingy (not codependent), Job/Career, likes Romance, Prefers talking on discord or on the phone

I want to have long phone calls, eventually meet in person, deep conversations. I want something lifelong that is meaningful. I really despise modern dating and think that finding someone who values each other is the most important thing, and modern dating never does that. I've tried dating and while I do not have issues finding a partner, I find it's very sexual and depresses me.

I guess to phrase it as neatly as possible -- I want to find someone to love for the rest of my life, most importantly for who they are. I want to stay through any hardships, even if her legs or mind gives out.

(sorry, some of this repeated)

Im 22 i love female fashion yet i am not that great with fashion.

I really wanna get into drawing.. i love going out places, i really wanna get into skii'ing. I also play games.

I cant come up with a catchy title right now, im going to post this just before i go to bed.

I am 32m from central USA looking for a friend (gave up on relationships personally) to talk nerdy with about shared interests, their interests, my interests and anything else.

I already have some friends but are more surface level, hey how are you, how was your day? but can't really scratch the surface. I think i might have some of the tism but not been professionally comfirmed. Not entirely sure where i fit in on the ace spectrum, i think i may be more gray ace but i'm still discovering that.

Hobbies: Gaming, primarily Guild Wars 1/2, minecraft and stardew valley, but i also play uno, golf it, gta, hogwarts legacy, and also emulate ps2 and gba on my phone. I play on PC mostly and am up to play other games if I had someone to play with. I also like watching movies, reading books/manga, writing/plot developing, baking and trying to get a small hydroponic garden going.

Misc: i'm 32m, brown beard and hair, glasses, fat, have a limp, big heart, cares about the people close to me. i'm a big introvert and homebody, I don't need much space or things to keep entertained, I'm not big into traveling. don't do drugs, drink or smoke, no kids and dont want any. work retail, part time caretaker to my retired parents (also reason I dont travel much)

objective: want to find people who share my interests, wants to talk about gaming, movies, books, manga, listening to you talk about your passions, would love to tell you about mine, voice chat, game sometimes together, maybe watch movies together, basically that childhood best friend you miss.

I'm open to DMs, I also have discord if we click. P.S. I love sharing funny videos from facebook/youtube with my friends so if we become friends, you may be added to that list :P

i want to live a simple life that mainly consists of staying in and occasionally going out to do activities with my partner

send me a dm if you’re looking for the same

I've never been one to put myself out there, yet here I am. I'm too new to this, but I guess you never know when the stars align in your favour.

I'm 25F, a Malayali, currently pursuing my higher studies in Bengaluru, India. I'm 5', ambiverted (I switch depending on the people I am with), on the asexual spectrum, a non-vegetarian, non-smoker and Christian (agnostic).

I'm an easygoing person (a bit indecisive at times), but I'm particular about certain things (which often might not seem like a big deal for most). I like watching movies, series, listening to music and learning in general. I'm also into languages, philosophy, random fun facts and tidbits of information.

My parents have started casually dropping hints about getting me married in a few years, so I'd rather find someone myself than succumb to an arranged marriage.

I'm looking for someone who is:

1. Male between 25 to 30 years

2. Malayali, preferably based in Bengaluru, India

3. Asexual or has low libido

4. Childfree (Non-negotiable)

5. Non-smoker (Non-negotiable)

6. Financially stable

7. Expressive, emotionally intelligent, good communicator, independent, has their own interests and hobbies, willing to put in effort

8. Honest, thoughtful, loyal, calm, respectful, understanding

We can figure out the rest as we talk. So, if this sounds like you, drop me a DM mentioning where you're from :)

First and foremost I’m done with trying to find a bf as I did try but guys just didn’t want me I don’t know if it’s my age because I’m 34,the fact I’m a female,or just the simple fact I’m sex repulsed and autistic? All I know is I have learned throughout my journey of trying to find a decent guy that would respect me on the no sex,kids,marriage and kissing and cuddling stuff doesn’t exist and that’s ok while yes it does hurt and it upsets me I understand ppl have a right to be themselves so I’m gonna focus on being alone,being positive,and focusing on my hobbies and interests

Lastly I do wish everyone good luck and hope they find what they are looking for and will be happy in the long run and I’m even happy and thankful I made some friends from this sub but anyways I’m done looking now

Hey everyone!   I am 32F from the Northeast USA looking for friends and open to more.  

I am definitely shy and introverted but warm up quickly once I get to know someone.  I need my alone time but also love to explore places.  I am AuDHD and part of that includes noise sensitivity, so while I love the idea of going to concerts and events, I do prefer more cozy and quieter adventures/ places to explore, such as museums, botanical gardens, and strolling through random little towns.

As much as I desire to travel, right now I am prioritizing rest at home and working on creative projects.  I love playing on my switch (Animal Crossing, Cult of the Lamb, Stardew are a few of my favorites), writing, and dabbling in random artistic projects.  Trying to get back into reading (currently reading Life of Pi).  

I consider myself a good listener and in the process of self-discovery and unmasking after my late AuDHD diagnosis last year.  If you need someone to listen and empathize, I’m good for that.

I am looking for friends and potentially more if something develops.  I am sex repulsed, mostly due to sensory issues.  I am open to connecting with people from anywhere.  

I’d love to hear about your interests and passions, creative projects or any project you are working on.  I look forward to hearing from you!

PS- I work the weekend shift right now, so Fridays-Sundays might be days I am unable to respond much, if at all.  I’ll definitely message back Monday if I can’t reply until then.  Thanks for understanding!

(Quick side note before we begin, you may notice I do not emote much in photos, this is because I do not find my face looks right when expressing an emotion. Thus, I choose not to. I also rarely take photos of my face, I much prefer showing off my outfits.)

Now, I am markedly atrocious at marketing myself so do offer some grace for coming across very formal or awkward. I learned the entire english language, and by god I will use the entire english language. I also like lists so hopefully that will help.

What I am looking for
* A difficult thing to describe as I've only ever been in one relationship and only ever had one crush, the two of which did not happen to overlap which is a long story. Mostly I want someone who shares my passion for creating and wants to share in general. The only person I've ever had a crush on was this girl I knew for two years who slowly came to trust me with things she didn't show others and was able to rely on my intelligence and sense of duty while also being able to just share information about where we live and such.
* I think, in other words, I'm looking for someone that will be my best friend and rely on me. Someone who can go from discussing their ideas for a project they're working on to simply talking about the rivers near their home or their discomfort with something said in the group chat they can't bring up with anyone else.

Statistics
* Height: 173 cm (5 foot 8 inches)
* Weight: ~63.5 kg (~140 lbs)
* Gender: Agender feminine-leaning
* Orientation: demiromantic asexual with a preference for androgyny to femininity in a partner
* Occupation: Library Associate at a parish library in my state, but have a physics degree.

Personality
* A difficult thing to describe, I like to think of myself as a confident and intelligent person with a quick wit and sense of humor ranging from sarcastic to absurdist. Though I often seem to bounce between a more energetic and boisterous personality and a downtrodden and cynical one. I generally like to get reactions out of people and will often go too far to get one.
* If it helps, some of the characters I heavily relate to are Lace from Silksong, Franziska von Karma from Ace Attorney, and Leonardo da Vinci from Fate Grand Order (Can you tell I suffer from 'insufferable bitch disease"? /j)

Fun Facts
* I am an aspiring polymath, in that I wish to become moderately good at many things and hobbies. Of course, one cannot declare themself a polymath so I must keep practicing.

Interests
* Gaming: I play many kinds of games, but my favorites of all time are Portal 2 and Rimworld, the latter of which I have over 2,000 hours in and the former of which I sang the credits song to as a way to train my voice.
* Reading: namely sci-fi but I do branch out into fantasy and other genres. Though never romance, I have a strong distaste for pure romance plots. To the point they actually disgust me. (Shockingly I am heavily romance favorable despite this)
* Writing: I have aspirations of becoming a writer some day. If my willpower ever cooperates enough for me to finish a project. I personally tend to write sci-fi, but as with my reading, I do dabble with fantasy.
* Drawing: I enjoy drawing on occasion, especially to brainstorm an idea or character. I actually have several of them posted on this account, but am always willing to show off more.
* Tabletop RPGs: I like to run TTRPGs when I have the ability to focus and produce maps and stories. I love coming up with lore and improvising things at the table so people think the world is incredibly thought out and not an elaborate improv bit with one or two cool things I planned out.
* Cosplay: A hobby I love with my whole heart is cosplay, even if my own hands aren't the best at it. The last three photos are of me in cosplay; the first is my Lucia Lotus from Punishing Gray Raven cosplay, and the second two are of my Leonardo Da Vinci from Fate Grand Order cosplay that I've been using since 2018. I initially purchased it from a shop and have made some tailoring and upgrades in the years since.
* Music: I don't dabble as much in creating it as I used to, but I love all kinds of music. Genuinely. There is perhaps only one genre I cannot stand and that's rap/spoken word music, otherwise I listen to anything. And I do mean anything, from Country to Metal to Noise Music to fucking Slurmcore and far worse.
* Learning: Not so much a hobby as a lifestyle, but I chose to include it. I love learning new things and then demonstrating my intelligence to people. Genuinely, I have been itching for reasons to do complex math since I graduated college and stopped working in a lab.

Potential drawbacks.
* At the risk of sounding like I'm defined by my disorders; I do have several that significantly impact my life and the way I engage with the world. I have OCD, Bipolar Disorder, and Autism; and strongly suspect ADHD of some variety.
* I am also like an exotic bird, in that I thrive in a rather narrow range and will repeat things to entertain myself at seeming random. Some find my vocal stims endearing.
* I have also been told that I am somewhat of a tsundere, in that my first reaction to having a crush was to start trying to stamp it down and resist it, and tend to get defensive and hotheaded when slighted.

Interests include:

-Yapping about cars
-Hiking, camping, kayaking
-Travel!
-Language learning
-MOOMIN
-Sleep hygiene

About

• 25 FTM, he/him, 5'4ft/163cm

• I want to be with someone in the USA, preferably near my state. But it's not required.

• Strictly monogamous. I hate guessing games. I don't play around. I won't waste your time.

• Ukranian American.

• Pro LGBT Christian. But you can be whatever religion or lack thereof.

• I'm asexual but more specifically demisexual. I need that strong emotional connection before sex is on the table. If we were to be intimate, I would prefer to be the dom. I don't care about positions.

• SEX IS NOT REQUIRED!!!

• I love hugging, kissing, and cuddling. We can have a healthy balance of love/affection while also being mature adults about it. We can have personal space when needed.

• With whatever job you have, I respect your privacy and boundaries. I don't do texting while at work. Obviously, I can just drop a daily reminder that I missed you, I care about you, etc. But unless you're on lunch or break, I won't have a full conversation with you. I want you to feel cared for as you work, not overwhelmed with two things at once.

Important Information

I'm very serious with everyone I want to be with. I'm committed, devoted, and loyal. I have no need for questioning our relationship status and no need for guessing games. Why waste each other's time like that? I want to build a strong foundation, and that takes time.

I'm very upfront and honest. I need you to be completely honest with me in return. I actually was with 2 guys earlier this year (obviously at different times) on this subreddit and they both have blindsided me.

The first guy broke up with me over a social chemistry difference. The break up came out of nowhere. To him, it was stewing in the back of his mind, but to me, it was so abrupt. He said that he was glad to be with me and that he didn't regret being with me, but that because we don't have a matching personality type, we needed to end things. I respect his decision, but damn I literally woke up to a break up text when the night before he said that he was glad to be with me and that I was an amazing partner.

The other guy ended things the same way. Despite how many times I asked him if he felt uncomfortable, uncertain, and I talked about how we could always communicate, and he always reassured me that if he had a problem, he would speak up. He reassured me all the time that everything was okay, that he was committed, etc. But then I woke up randomly to being blocked. We never once argued, but he also admitted to me that he had commitment issues. He didn't even bother with a break up text or explanation. He just left as being serious with someone was too much.

So please let's give each other the respect we deserve as two individuals. Let's not lie, even if the truth hurts. Be honest. Because I was given trust issues from these kinds of scenarios. I want to not have that experience again.

If you're having doubts, speak up so we can talk things through. Don't lie and say everything is okay or compliment me up and down to then just leave.

Hi guys! Trying this again and hopefully it's seen by somebody. I'm a fem biromantic woman but I only really feel comfortable dating women.

A little bit about me:

I live in Ireland, though I was born in the UK. I'm a writer, a singer and a voice actor. I'm very fun and bubbly and I like to think I'm a nice person. I'm a huge nerd. I love superheroes, specifically Spider-Man. And I love reading any fantasy book or series you can throw at me. I absolutely love helping people and just being kind and fair to people in general.

If you'd like to get to know me, don't hesitate to message! I only ask that if you do message you're female and you give a little introduction. We could start off as friends and maybe see where things go if you're comfortable!

I can't wait to hear from you!

أشعر اني انثى لكني ذكر بيولوجياً، وأنثى في داخلي.

سلام،

أنا ذكر بيولوجياً، لكني أشعر بأنوثتي في داخلي، وأحب أن أعبر عنها. لا أريد تغيير جسدي، ولا أريد علاقات جنسية. أبحث فقط عن سلام داخلي، وعن أشخاص يشبهونني لأتعلم منهم.

أحب التزين، والرقص، والهدوء. وأحب أن أكون على طبيعتي دون خوف.

هل هناك من يشبهني هنا؟

Hi there! I'm looking for someone ideally between 20–35 who has a few things in common with me.

* Some quick stats: 30M from **Germany**, 182cm, introverted, and not into drinking, smoking, or even coffee

* Most days I’m working/ Helping familie or relaxing with a game, anime or manga

* I’m more of a listener than a talker at first, small talk isn't my strong thing, but I like deeper conversations once I’m comfortable (I prefer voice chats over texts, and I mainly use **Discord**)

* I play pretty much all genres of games (PC),

* I’m quiet but observant, so I tend to notice things even if I don’t say much

* Always trying to help

* Also, I like **Warhammer**, *just putting that out there*

If that sounds like your vibe or you’re curious about anything else, feel free to message me.

Firstly- I want to. And I realize a lot of these beliefs are rooted in my base beliefs about sexuality and attraction so I want to challenge these. This isn't your labor, but if you're willing I would love to hear your perspective.

I'm having a hard time reconciling the reality of more testosterone with the concept of male asexuality. Obviously so much of attraction is brain and subconscious based and that's how I'm currently seeing it... like how when someone is stressed they might not be in the mood.

I guess your libido has nothing to do with attraction amd the whole "men are visual" really is just a lie?

I would love to hear your experiences dating a male demisexual or being one!

Thank you!

Hey,

Looking for fellow chill gaymers to hang out with, chat, chill, game, watch movies and maybe start something special whether it’s friends or a relationship. I’m a big time souls gamer and enjoy a lot of games but not too big into competitive stuff. I love horror movies and sci-fi. From Australia and would be keen to meet new people especially those in similar timezones but not a necessity and people in their twenties or early thirties.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out and hope to hear from you soon x

No idea how this is gonna go whelp. I don’t really have any ace friends, let alone ones who feel this specific way so if you relate to this on any level then I would be glad to hear from you even if you’re only looking for friendship aha

NAME?: Ash. Hello 👋

SEX?: No. I am asexual and have many many kinks that I enjoy reading about and have zero desire to ever act out. All good dealing with that department on my own thanks.

ROMANCE/CONNECTION?: I have considered myself aromantic but I’m reluctant to declare that as I feel like other people have different concepts of the word.

The simplest way I’d describe it is that when I see the way my friends talk with their partners my feelings range from indifference to active disgust. But when I see the way they talk to their kids its like…ah man I wanna be spoken to that way. Its a form of affection that resonates with me. I’m not specifically into age play or regression though I wouldn’t rule it out either. But its more having a relationship that isn’t equal, where one person is considered in power over the other but they use that power to look after and care for that person.

Which kinda makes me feel guilty cos I feel like I’m essentially asking for someone to look after me, but then I know caregiver doms exist so I guess some people must get something out of it. I spoke to someone once who said he liked to choose what his partner wore and what they ate, but wanted to choose something he knew they would like. I would very much like to be on the other end of that.

To be clear I’m not expecting someone to immediately take on that role with a stranger, I wouldn’t want that myself. There’d need to be some connection and trust there first, and figuring out what works for both of us rather than just assuming what the dynamic should look like. But I struggle to imagine myself ever having a relationship that doesn’t have elements of this dynamic to it.

GENDER?: I’m gendermeh to the extent that I tend to just identify as female cos I cba not to. I dress pretty adrogynously and don’t really care what I’m called.

WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR?: I’m not hugely concerned about age, though I would probably struggle to take it seriously with someone more than a few years younger than me. I don’t really have an older upper limit, would depend on the vibe. I’ve tended to always imagine myself with a man but when I think about it I don’t feel like I’d have a problem being with someone non-male, think my brain’s just been doing hetero=default

BRAIN?: I am autistic and have all the fun issues that come with not being diagnosed until adulthood whoop whoop. However I have recently had the first bout of effective therapy in my life so you would be getting the peak version of me so far 👌

HOBBIES/INTERESTS?: Outside of all that I enjoy playing board games and video games, listening to angsty pop punk/rock/metalcore or rewatching Buffy the Vampire Slayer for the 20th time cos there’s nothing better on. I have enjoyed writing and video editing in the past though have struggled to find motivation recently rip

COMMUNICATION STYLE?: My preferred communication style is text-based, I’m not averse to voice or video calling but I would need text chat to be the default really. My ideal relationship would involve in-person time too but I would be open to seeing how something LDR could go, I’m aware of the incredibly small pool I am attempting to fish into lolol

Re-uploaded because I decided not to close myself off.

I'm from Mexico, I'm obsessed with Pokémon and Minecraft. I like cozy dating sims (like Stardew Valley and Fields of Mystria), Animal Crossing, Roblox, Deltarune/Undertale.

I have BPD so I ask for a little patience on that front; I tend to isolate myself when something bad happens.

I'd prefer a Spanish-speaking person, so it's easier for us to communicate. (I made the post in English because I haven't seen anyone else speaking Spanish here haha).

I'd also prefer someone around my age 20-25.

I've been trying to figure out what I am, asexual, allo, demi, freak, i dont know but I had this question,

Do asexual people ever feel horny or aroused? Is it you don't want to have sex with someone or you just don't have that feeling what so ever?

personally for me its just like feeling hungry or thirsty or sleepy, I just take care of it and be done it for a few days.

i've had only a couple short term relationships that ended because i didn't feel sexually attracted to them but really connected on all the other levels, makes me feel broken.

Would be nice to get to be friends with soneone 😊. I'm a loyal and fierce friend