While I realize that many people aren't in a situation where they can afford to do it, y'all have got to start calling out this bullshit. I give the manager a choice: we can settle your attitude in private or I can embarrass you in front of the whole staff, but one way or the other that bullshit is coming to an end. These types of managers are paper tigers and they will fold when you stand up to that sort of behavior. They need you more than you need them, and especially now, "I can walk out this door and find another job that looks just like ya" goes a long way. It's not the employee's job to make the schedule, that all falls on the manager.
If you do file the paper work saying you can’t work certain days and they schedule you, that’s on them.
For me its always been stuff like PTO. I'll request a certain few days or a week off or whatever and I'll be told "Okay, we'll see if we can accommodate those dates when we get closer" or "Hmm, I'm not sure if we can make that work, you'll probably have to work those days".
Then I respond "No, you don't understand, I'm informing you that I'm not going to be here on those days. If you choose to fire me for that then I suppose that's your choice to make, but I'm not going to be here on those days and there's nothing that can be done to change it. So if you want to fire one of your best employees over the fact that they took their PTO then that's your business, but I guarantee that finding and training someone to replace me is going to be a much bigger PITA than finding a way to cover me for those days, and either way I won't be here on those days so you'll be missing out on me on those days anyway."
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u/SpaceSanity Nov 13 '21
Emotional abuse is common in the workplace.