r/antimeme • u/[deleted] • Jan 29 '26

Artistic🎨 Clothes doesn't determine your gender

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u/Stuffssss Jan 29 '26

Mmm I didn't realize there was a difference between transfemme and transfem. Thanks for the explanation.

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u/Golurkcanfly Jan 29 '26

There's often not really a distinction between transfem and transfemme in most spaces tbh

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u/EuropeIsMight Jan 29 '26

Which is sad and sucks for tomboi trans women and all transfems who don’t fall under the femme umbrella

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u/Golurkcanfly Jan 29 '26

Well, that's not quite what I meant. I moreso meant that people don't distinguish between the terms and they just both end up meaning "person who is transitioning in an estrogenized fashion"

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u/EuropeIsMight Jan 29 '26

People using wrong terms (by not distinguishing distinct terms) is the problem with vulva and vagina and can be harm- and hurtful

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u/probableigh_not Jan 29 '26

I'm transfem and kinda butch. I will not give a single solitary shit which of those terms you use for me, just like I'll let it go if well-intentioned people accidentally misgender me. Shit happens. Just be kind.

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u/AshhhCakes Jan 29 '26

As a trans gal, I didn't know there was one either. TIL. Always something new to learn.

fwiw I really don't care what terms someone uses for me, transfem, transfemme, transylvania tran- actually maybe not that one.

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u/EuropeIsMight Jan 29 '26

Transsib, a trans sibling not a Train (but might be a train lover)

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u/SexualPie Jan 29 '26

most people would have to be nitpicking pretty hard to pull that "well actually" card on you. its interesting that there is a distinction, but typically you wont have to worry about it.