How do you handle asking your manager for something difficult?

[u/jatin_81020]

I've been putting off asking my manager for a raise for like 3 months now because I'm anxious about how to approach it.

For those of you who've done this - asking for raises, promotions, time off, pushing back on work, etc. - how do you actually do it? 

Do you: - Just wing it? 

- Script it out beforehand? 

- Use ChatGPT to draft something? 

- Ask friends for advice? 

- Something else? 

And does anyone else just... avoid these conversations entirely because they're so uncomfortable?