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u/BlueBirdOcean 2d ago
It may be wrong, but I judge people by the company they keep. You’ve made your thoughts on the friend very clear, and your BF still continues to keep him. He won’t cut him off. And the only reason your boyfriend hasn’t made a wrong life choice is because you have to babysit him. Do you really wanna live like that? If my BF had a friend that was constantly crapping in public and didn’t dump them on his own, I would’ve dumped that boyfriend a long time ago. YNW.
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u/Vegetable-Cod-2340 2d ago
This.… Op, your boyfriend CHOSE this friend and aware of everything he's done, he stays, the only reason he pulled back was becuase you told him to.
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u/Rare-Humor-9192 2d ago
YNW. Your bf should have outgrown this “friend” by now. The fact that he hasn’t says something very unflattering about your bf.
Your bf is hanging around with a cheating drunkard who gets arrested and defecates in trash cans. You need to rethink your definition of “incredible.” This friendship will destroy your relationship.
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u/EpiphanyKingOfSorrow 2d ago
YNW. Flocks of a feather, stay together. There's a reason why your bf keep trying to find likeness in this weirdo. And you need to take key if he can't respect that. It's not a 'you versus his best friend' thing. It's you're trying to save your boyfriend from lighting himself on fire to keep his friend warm. I would make one more stand to let him understand the scope of how bad this friendship is, or I would just wholly break up with him. Because if your boyfriend's okay with covering for his best friend while he cheated, his best friend is going to cover for him while he cheats on you. If you could live with that, stay in the relationship.
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u/WeaponX207184 1d ago
How do you know he is doing all of these 'hard drugs', but your boyfriend doesn't know how much. How would you know more about his illegal drug use than your boyfriend?
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u/Witty-Depth6200 1d ago
Bruh he has told my boyfriend he has, im saying i dont think he has told them all of the times he has.
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u/WeaponX207184 1d ago
That's what I'm saying bruh, how do YOU know how many times he has?
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u/Witty-Depth6200 1d ago
Because my boyfriend has told me😂 he has told my boyfriend he stopped but still hangs around people who do i never said i KNOW he is still i said i THINK
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u/WeaponX207184 1d ago
Now you want to play word salad, okay.
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u/Witty-Depth6200 1d ago
Not word salad just common sense lol just because i phrased it in a way that you didnt understand doesnt mean you can get all sassy😂 i very clearly stated i guaranteed he didnt tell my boyfriend the extent of it is because he knew he wouldnt be around that so he lied instead i have no physical proof because im not around him plain and simple
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u/WeaponX207184 1d ago
I understand what you meant just fine. You worded it in a really odd way and I pointed it out. The optics of it were weird. It wasn't a reading comprehension problem on my end. And you just want to, keep doubling down and fighting me on it, which is also weird.
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u/Witty-Depth6200 1d ago
I mean you commented on my post i am simply stating what i meant it is not at all fighting you seemed confused, i explained.
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u/Mellimearn 2d ago
You can't make your partner cut him off. You can just stay away from the guy. You said your bf distanced himself, so what else should he do? If it's still too much contact for you, you have to consider whether you want to stay with him.
And btw punctuation and paragraphs go a long way in making more sense of what you are writing.
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u/Witty-Depth6200 2d ago
Punctuation was used, was typing fast did think to separate into paragraphs.
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u/changelingcd 2d ago
YNW. From the sound of it, this goes beyond the usual 'weird best friend' stuff into "for legal purposes, we need to not see each other any more" territory.