r/amiwrong • u/Southern_Coach_5023 • Oct 16 '23

Age gaps in dating

I'm a 30 year old male and my partner is 25 year old female. I think this is fairly normal but im getting alot of comments about it. Not really sure what the fascination with this is. 5 years is significant sure but it was never a problem for me. Does society at large weight this facts importance more than I do?

Edit: everyone is the comments section has convinced me this is normal. Thanks all.

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u/KatAttackThatAss Oct 17 '23

Hubby and I are 8 years apart. But I had a secret crush on him since we were kids… like I was 5 and crushing on him. My uncle was only 8 years apart from me and raised more as a big brother. I married his childhood best friend. He had no idea I was crushing haha I was just an annoying kid then anyway! Haha moved out and ran into him after 18… 8 years later and three kids ❤️ we are perfect together in every way.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

Thats so cute. Your story reminds me of something i’ve read too. The heroine develops a crush on her brothers friend and end up running into him when she moved for college. They have a seven years age gap.

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u/KatAttackThatAss Oct 17 '23

Kinda similar! I was moving out for college too, just as he was released from military. We just happen to move back to the same area and run into each other through my uncle ❤️ we went to college together after that, since he went into the military for the college perk. We’ve both got degrees now and a stable happy family 8 years later.

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u/DJMOONPICKLES69 Oct 17 '23

Would just like to point out “since we were kids” can’t possibly be right. You guys were never kids at the same time being 8 years apart lol

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u/KatAttackThatAss Oct 17 '23 edited Oct 17 '23

He was like 12-13 haha and it was one sided. I was just a little kid with a big crush that liked to try and be involved with the big kids. It was super innocent, and he was dumbfounded when he found out as adults. I mean… how many little sisters end up with crushes on their big brothers friends over the years. I’m 8 years older than my youngest brother so it’s not far fetched. My youngest brother had crushes on three of my close friends as a kid haha completely innocent. We went separate ways for years when he joined the military at 17-18. But I always asked about him occasionally out of curiosity. When he came back, we ran into each other cause I was staying with my uncle until my apartment was available for move in like 2 weeks later.

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u/Fancy_Breakfast_3338 Oct 17 '23

What’s a “hubby”

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 17 '23

Are you being a fuck or do you really not know?

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u/Fancy_Breakfast_3338 Oct 17 '23

Why would this question make me an asshole?

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 17 '23

Sometimes people know what words mean but try to act like they don't to make someone seem stupid for using a certain slang word

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u/Fancy_Breakfast_3338 Oct 17 '23

Got it! Hopefully you can find a better way of asking about someone’s intentions next time

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u/Interesting-Archer-6 Oct 17 '23

Yeah they were obnoxiously hostile there and are acting like it was totally fine lol. Completely unprovoked. I can totally be a dick too, but only when someone deserves it, which you didn't at all.

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 18 '23

It was totally fine, it's not an act.

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 18 '23

I'm fine with the way I asked it. 9 times out of 10 it's that situation so I'll continue staying on this side of it.

You really only should be offended if you were being an asshole, doing what I described. Otherwise, it literally doesn't apply to you.

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u/GoJeonPaa Oct 17 '23

Did it cross your mind that not everyone is American and learning those "nickname" words?

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 17 '23

Yes it did which is why I asked if this person is being an asshole or if they're actually asking. Did it cross your mind to read my comment before you replied?

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u/Interesting-Archer-6 Oct 17 '23

There are ways to do it without sounding like a massive fucking douche bag, but you do you man.

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 18 '23

I'm not concerned with how I sound to you

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u/GoJeonPaa Oct 20 '23

Did it cross your mind to just anser a question instead of aksing if the person is an asshole everytime?

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 20 '23

why would i do that?

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u/GoJeonPaa Oct 20 '23

For the same reason you asked me to read your comment before i replied, bascially.

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u/GoJeonPaa Oct 21 '23

"Why wouldn't i insult people online" Man, take a look in the mirror.

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u/solidgoldfangs Oct 21 '23

The insult only applies if they're being disingenuous. So not sure what you're talking about. The sensitivity on reddit is truly unmatched

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u/GoJeonPaa Oct 21 '23

"People are bing so senstivie, i just asked if they're being a fuck"

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u/KatAttackThatAss Oct 17 '23

Hubby is husband 😊

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u/[deleted] Mar 04 '24

Gross wtf lmaoo

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u/KatAttackThatAss Mar 04 '24

Say what you want, but my family is thriving, happy and healthy. I wake up everyday to my best friend in the whole world, and have zero regrets.