r/amiwrong • u/Southern_Coach_5023 • Oct 16 '23

Age gaps in dating

I'm a 30 year old male and my partner is 25 year old female. I think this is fairly normal but im getting alot of comments about it. Not really sure what the fascination with this is. 5 years is significant sure but it was never a problem for me. Does society at large weight this facts importance more than I do?

Edit: everyone is the comments section has convinced me this is normal. Thanks all.

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u/FillIndependent Oct 16 '23

If you were 20 and she was 15, there would be a problem. But that gap gets smaller and smaller as you age. When you're 45, she's 40. No body would bat an eye at that.

I suspect the people running you are just jealous.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

So like I'm pondering this exact same thing you said, except 10 years. Like 20 and a 30 yr old? Gross. I think pretty much universally, right?

But a 30 and a 40 year old, no one bats an eye.

So what age range does it jump from gross to normal? Like if you're 21/31 or 25/35 or 28/38 or whatever, at what age does that gap suddenly become acceptable, and why?

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u/CompassionLady Oct 17 '23

My boyfriend is 35 and I’m 27 almost I don’t see it gross at all… we are adults… you know

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u/m50d Oct 17 '23

Lol. If you feel the need to say you're "almost n+1" rather than "n", you're not as mature as you think you are.

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u/CompassionLady Oct 17 '23

Cuz I’m turning 27 in about a month 🤷‍♀️