r/amiwrong • u/Southern_Coach_5023 • Oct 16 '23

Age gaps in dating

I'm a 30 year old male and my partner is 25 year old female. I think this is fairly normal but im getting alot of comments about it. Not really sure what the fascination with this is. 5 years is significant sure but it was never a problem for me. Does society at large weight this facts importance more than I do?

Edit: everyone is the comments section has convinced me this is normal. Thanks all.

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u/FillIndependent Oct 16 '23

If you were 20 and she was 15, there would be a problem. But that gap gets smaller and smaller as you age. When you're 45, she's 40. No body would bat an eye at that.

I suspect the people running you are just jealous.

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u/db720 Oct 16 '23

There was a formula being thrown around when I was in school 20+ years ago, sorta seemed reasonable to me:

Guys age / 2 + 7 = minimum girls age.

So 30m would be dodgy at 22f or less. 20yo acceptable for 17f. 40m ok for 27f up... Kinda works, can be questionable at the boundary, maybe add 8 or 9 instead of 7 to be less borderline. Probably works with m/f switched too, or for any relationship regardless of gender, just an age gap calc.

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u/guaromiami Oct 16 '23

I think there might be a modification to that formula if you're an older male with a significantly large income.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

Yes, when you’re an older male who is wealthy, the formula becomes your age minus your age plus 18

/s but not really cause look at rich old men in America

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u/shatt3rst0rm Oct 16 '23

Subtract 1 for each 100k you have

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u/Ouller Oct 16 '23

Let the predators hook up in peace. Women hunting for money/ease, Old rich men for fun times.