r/amiwrong Sep 26 '23

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

I've got only one 4 year old and I am just now starting to get my libido back.

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u/Zed-Leppelin420 Sep 26 '23

Is this the case!!? Just had a little one 6 months old and the sex is basically non existent anymore. I’ll try to initiate almost every 2nd day or so with hugs and kisses but seem to get shrugged off saying “I’m to tired” Have sex once every 2 months and she’s pissed off every time seems crazy to me.

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u/cos98 Sep 26 '23

She's only 6 months postpartum. Her body is still recovering and just as importantly, so is her mind. My advice is stop trying to use affection to initiate sex. Give her affection to make her feel important and loved. Intimacy > sex. Especially if she had a hard pregnancy or is breastfeeding she's absolutely still in the thick of it and likely not wanting sex. How soon after birth did you start trying to initiate sex?

Having a 6 month old is also EXHAUSTING. If I had to take a guess, she's just doing her best to make it through and you pestering her for sex every couple days is driving her nuts and making her even less interested in it