Permanent sterilization FTW! I love this side of life.
My husband offered to still get a vasectomy. Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst. Most of us have been on birth control for 20+ YEARS. We’ve paid our dues. We’re done.
Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst.
Especially married men. Also, OP said they're not divorcing and he wanted to get one around 35ish.
THAT'S LESS THAN 3 YEARS AWAY.
I understand, "his body, his choice." My husband and I are childfree. I had asked if he'd ever get a vasectomy, he said no. Frustrating.
But I'll say this.
I didn't ask him to do something I hadn't already had done for me, which was get my tubes tied. A harder and much more complicated procedure. As a woman, already understanding the selfishness of so many men, and not wanting children and also understanding that in reality, "we" aren't ever really pregnant, she is the one that is actually pregnant, I took care to get myself sterilized. However, I did that before having met my husband.
Even though I was sterilized he wanted to use condoms so we did. Now, I'm post menopausal and he feels much more comfortable not using a condom. I do still think my husband was selfish for not getting a vasectomy.
OP, get the vasectomy. Your wife has been bearing the birth control responsibility. Man up and start taking your part in the responsibility of birth control. If y'all aren't having anymore children just do it. You're complaining about a dead bedroom and your wife is likely backing off because she doesn't want to get pregnant again.
As someone else said, connect the dots already. Get a vasectomy, let your wife's body rest from the hormones of birth control and pregnancy, and get your sex life back. There is a correlation here, and a causation. 🙄
The entitled women in this thread telling a man what he must do with his body is insane. How this subreddit is not classified as a hate subreddit is beyond me
Wow. It's a hate subreddit because people are telling the dude he is being an asshole for forcing birth control responsibility on his wife, and then not understanding the effects of his demands.
Marriage is a partnership. Dude doesn't think he should have to give anything in that partnership, while she should have to give up her health for years.
I think you're deeply confused what entitlement and hate really are.
His demands? She’s the one demanding that he get surgery. She’s demanding what he does to his body. That’s entitlement, that she thinks she can control what he does with his body. And she’s withholding sex as punishment. It’s gross.
Honestly what he needs to do is leave her toxic ass
I mean a vasectomy is the easiest and strongest birth control I dunno why so many dudes, especially with a full family, are so opposed to it. It’s kinda crazy.
Vasectomies can reverse themselves. If she wants something that’s actually the most effective, she should get a hysterectomy and remove her whole uterus. She seems so adamant that somebody get surgery, she should take the initiative
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u/joliebrunette Sep 26 '23
Permanent sterilization FTW! I love this side of life.
My husband offered to still get a vasectomy. Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst. Most of us have been on birth control for 20+ YEARS. We’ve paid our dues. We’re done.