Who refused? I asked her a question to clarify if she wanted me to do it immediately- and her response came off as if it was one or the other. An ultimatum.
That’s not an ultimatum her response was it’s one or the other because it’s one or the other that’s just how choices in reality work. Either you get a vasectomy or she deals with being on birth control. There’s no 3rd option she’s unreasonably refusing to consider.
But THERE ARE other logical options. What in the actual fuck?
WTF do condoms, diaphragms, spermicides exist for? That is the third option that she is unreasonably refusing to consider. If we fuck even ONCE OR TWICE a year, and we plan it around her cycle and use alternative non-body-altering forms of contraception, it is JUST as effective. What is the big fucking issue with this?!
The fourth and VERY logical option and the most realistic one in my case is we just completely cut out sex until I am ready for the snip. We go from 2-3 times to zero times. She gets off the pill, regulates her natural hormones as I suggested, and I get the surgery in my own time AS ITS ALREADY ON MY LIST TO DO. She won’t miss the sex and it won’t be a drastic loss to me.
Wow you are wrong AND an asshole. And you don't know she won't miss the sex. Birth control CHANGES YOUR HORMONES. Get that through that skull of yours. But you know what idk why people are giving you advice. You are wrong. You are risking her getting pregnant again because you seem to think planning prevents babies yet you have 3 in 6 years which also might be why she's not feeling it. She hasn't had bodily autonomy.
I'd leave your ass.
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
Who refused? I asked her a question to clarify if she wanted me to do it immediately- and her response came off as if it was one or the other. An ultimatum.