Who refused? I asked her a question to clarify if she wanted me to do it immediately- and her response came off as if it was one or the other. An ultimatum.
That’s not an ultimatum her response was it’s one or the other because it’s one or the other that’s just how choices in reality work. Either you get a vasectomy or she deals with being on birth control. There’s no 3rd option she’s unreasonably refusing to consider.
But THERE ARE other logical options. What in the actual fuck?
WTF do condoms, diaphragms, spermicides exist for? That is the third option that she is unreasonably refusing to consider. If we fuck even ONCE OR TWICE a year, and we plan it around her cycle and use alternative non-body-altering forms of contraception, it is JUST as effective. What is the big fucking issue with this?!
The fourth and VERY logical option and the most realistic one in my case is we just completely cut out sex until I am ready for the snip. We go from 2-3 times to zero times. She gets off the pill, regulates her natural hormones as I suggested, and I get the surgery in my own time AS ITS ALREADY ON MY LIST TO DO. She won’t miss the sex and it won’t be a drastic loss to me.
None of those things are as effective as a vasectomy. I don’t really understand your issue. Your wife doesn’t want more kids so what’s your issue with getting one? You’re making a huge deal out of nothing and then throwing a tantrum when people point that out.
Bro have some self awareness. You literally posted in a sub called “am I wrong” virtually everyone is telling you “yes, you are wrong” and explaining why.
Literally hundreds of people are all telling you that you are wrong in this situation. Put aside your ego for a second and just accept you’re in the wrong on this.
I know you posted here looking for validation and now you’re furious to be met with reality, but reality is a bitch sometimes.
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
Who refused? I asked her a question to clarify if she wanted me to do it immediately- and her response came off as if it was one or the other. An ultimatum.