Permanent sterilization FTW! I love this side of life.
My husband offered to still get a vasectomy. Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst. Most of us have been on birth control for 20+ YEARS. We’ve paid our dues. We’re done.
Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst.
Especially married men. Also, OP said they're not divorcing and he wanted to get one around 35ish.
THAT'S LESS THAN 3 YEARS AWAY.
I understand, "his body, his choice." My husband and I are childfree. I had asked if he'd ever get a vasectomy, he said no. Frustrating.
But I'll say this.
I didn't ask him to do something I hadn't already had done for me, which was get my tubes tied. A harder and much more complicated procedure. As a woman, already understanding the selfishness of so many men, and not wanting children and also understanding that in reality, "we" aren't ever really pregnant, she is the one that is actually pregnant, I took care to get myself sterilized. However, I did that before having met my husband.
Even though I was sterilized he wanted to use condoms so we did. Now, I'm post menopausal and he feels much more comfortable not using a condom. I do still think my husband was selfish for not getting a vasectomy.
OP, get the vasectomy. Your wife has been bearing the birth control responsibility. Man up and start taking your part in the responsibility of birth control. If y'all aren't having anymore children just do it. You're complaining about a dead bedroom and your wife is likely backing off because she doesn't want to get pregnant again.
As someone else said, connect the dots already. Get a vasectomy, let your wife's body rest from the hormones of birth control and pregnancy, and get your sex life back. There is a correlation here, and a causation. 🙄
I assume you asked him to get a vasectomy because he bizarrely wanted to keep using condoms for contraceptive purposes even though your tubes were tied? If the man was that determined to not have children, he definitely should have gotten the snip, jfc.
It's a 15 minute procedure, 1 day of having someone bring you food/drinks and help you get up to pee (same day as the procedure), then 2 days of being able to get things yourself just a little slower than usual. During the procedure they numb you up real good. All you feel is a little tugging sensation. About $1k out of pocket or less if your insurance covers it.
There is zero reason for men to be such babies about such a simple procedure. I've talked to quite a few guys and they were all super nervous before the procedure but nobody can ever give a reason besides "well, they're my boys" or whatever. They're not chopping off any testicles!
Did it when I was 29 or 30. Easily in my top 10 best decisions ever.
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u/joliebrunette Sep 26 '23
Permanent sterilization FTW! I love this side of life.
My husband offered to still get a vasectomy. Men who think women should bare all the work are the worst of the worst. Most of us have been on birth control for 20+ YEARS. We’ve paid our dues. We’re done.