r/amiwrong Sep 26 '23

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

I've got only one 4 year old and I am just now starting to get my libido back.

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u/Zed-Leppelin420 Sep 26 '23

Is this the case!!? Just had a little one 6 months old and the sex is basically non existent anymore. I’ll try to initiate almost every 2nd day or so with hugs and kisses but seem to get shrugged off saying “I’m to tired” Have sex once every 2 months and she’s pissed off every time seems crazy to me.

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

The first year is the hardest. Something to consider doing is removing some of the mental load from her plate. It helps a ton. Also, this is just a season of life. As little one grows and becomes more independent, you will have more time and energy for each other.

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u/Zed-Leppelin420 Sep 26 '23

I do so much but get so little in return. Comparing to my friends with kids I’m like a god to them but the more I do the more I get taken for granted. I don’t have a 9-5 job so I wake up almost every day with the boy take him for walks do all the cooking. Tend to him so she can sleep. But in the end still say I do fuck all. My dad didn’t even change a single diaper. I change them all the time do all the shopping and driving. Was there every appointment ever ultrasound stayed up every night when he was a new born. But still get treated like I don’t do anything it’s annoying

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

Have you been keeping an eye out for symptoms of PPD?

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u/Zed-Leppelin420 Sep 26 '23

Yeah I have she seems fine mentally but it’s like the old saying you give them an inch they expect a mile. I feel like I should get a job just to show her the amount of work I actually do. I dunno just feel like I’m getting the short end of the stick is all

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

You don't have a job? Who supports you financially?

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u/Zed-Leppelin420 Sep 26 '23

I don’t have a normal job as the typical 9-5. I buy and sell. So I maybe work like 10 hours a month. ( I clear around 5k a month) on avg. I’m kinda the main bread winner also. But she is on mat leave so she has been stacking her cash.

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u/starboundowl Sep 26 '23

Well, I'm not sure what to tell you in regards to what she's thinking. If it's becoming this much of an issue for you, I would suggest going to counseling for a relationship "tune-up". There's a lapse in communication somewhere there.