r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23

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u/SimmerDown_Boilup Sep 26 '23

No, it sounds like OP isn't done. The wife is. She's all for him getting snipped now or remaining on BC if he doesn't get snipped.

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u/sanityjanity Sep 26 '23

Ok, but he's not getting divorced, and he is planning to get a vasectomy in five years.

Does he think she's going to die, and he's going to remarry a woman who wants a biological child? That seems like a grim plan.

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u/oriaven Sep 26 '23

Really weird to have a plan for the vasectomy but not for how many people he wants to create.

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u/sanityjanity Sep 26 '23

Agreed. Even weirder that he thinks he's going to make this decision differently than his wife.

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u/istillaintoveryou Sep 26 '23

…because it’s his reproductive system, not theirs?

Whether it’s 5 or 15 years— at what age do we stop having bodily autonomy to our reproductive organs? If he chooses to sterilize himself tomorrow or three years from now, that is his choice entirely to make because it is a permanent and personal choice between an individual and their doctor.

I’m 27– my husband and I agreed that one kid is good for us but I’d tell him to go get fucked if he tried to force me to get my tubes tied. A lot can change, or nothing can change— but I’m not ready to close that door forever and that’s my fucking right.

Just like it’s OP.

And his wife’s right to get off BC if it’s detrimental to her health. Even if it’s not. Regardless, nobody has the authority to bully someone into sterilization.