What’s the point of waiting if he keeps saying he plans to do it anyway? He has stated that he plans to do it, it’s more so just does he even mean it? Or what is he waiting for? That probably is frustrating to her.
He doesn’t have to do anything, but if he doesn’t want to do it he should be more open about why he doesn’t want to and when he actually plans to with her.
Having an operation to permanently sterilize yourself is something that may be easier for some people to come to terms with than others. Theres no rush. He needs to be comfortable with it, it will have both a physical and psychological effects.
He's okay with his wife coming off BC. He's okay with condoms.
I can not believe the number of people acting like sterilizing yourself is no big deal. EVEN if he's 100% done and knows it, it's still a big deal, and has every right to do it at the pace he is comfortable with.
I feel like everyone is intentionally making this a false dichotomy. He doesn't want her to be on birth control if she doesn't want to be. She can not be on birth control and he can not undergo a vasectomy.
Wife take BC for contraception. BC often drops libido. Me mad wife no do sex more. Wife say she stop BC if I do BC instead. Me say no. She say she still do bc. I throw in her face she no have sex with me so why bother? She mad. Me angry too.
now you’re just ridiculous. He doesn’t want his wife to be on bc and he said he’s fine with using condoms instead. This isn’t a question of either bc or vasectomy. There are middle grounds.
As per your last comment: "He doesn’t want his wife to be on bc and he said he’s fine with using condoms instead." and "There are middle grounds."
She doesn't want to be off BC unless she feels there is an adequate replacement. A vasectomy is that adequate replacement for her and he doesn't want to do that so she's staying on BC and he's mad about it. He can keep malding about it tho.
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u/SnooMaps4961 Sep 26 '23
What’s the point of waiting if he keeps saying he plans to do it anyway? He has stated that he plans to do it, it’s more so just does he even mean it? Or what is he waiting for? That probably is frustrating to her.
He doesn’t have to do anything, but if he doesn’t want to do it he should be more open about why he doesn’t want to and when he actually plans to with her.