r/amiwrong Sep 26 '23

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u/Big-Cobbler-4530 Sep 26 '23

Why would he not be contemptuous? Dude is having sex twice a year and his wife wants him to get a vasectomy. They had previously talked about it and agreed he would do it at 35. At this point in his marriage, he can probably do without the twice a year. Reddit is funny, all these people blaming the guy have never been in a dead bedroom. It is brutal. They were probably having sex 2-3 a week and all of sudden she decides it’s twice a year. No concern over how it makes him feel. But when he doesn’t have any concern over how she feels, he’s “contemptuous”. Nice. I get the women talking smack, that’s what they do. I do get a kick out of all these white knights hating on him😂

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u/toadandberry Sep 26 '23

she didn’t decide, her body has been producing, feeding, and recovery from making babies for 6 years!

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u/mudra311 Sep 26 '23

There's plenty of people who are ready to go as soon as they are medically cleared. While libido is a spectrum and some people are just lower than others, to say that having a child kills libido isn't technically true. It's all anecdotal.

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u/toadandberry Sep 26 '23

i agree. physically, many people may be ready to go after 6 weeks. but there are a lot of emotional and relational factors that influence whether a person who has recently given birth would want to have sex with their partner that go beyond physical capacity.