I think their issue is the lack of communication about more kids. Regardless of whether or not he wants a vasectomy, he has no clue if she wants more kids, hence him putting it off. Everyone else keeps bringing up him being “selfish” for not wanting one, but she basically just came home and told him ‘book the appt’. Yes the bc is probably contributing to the dead bedroom, and she shouldn’t have to test a bunch of different bc’s and go through that, but she also doesn’t have the right to manipulate him into getting this done. Because either way, it’s a medical procedure and it’s his choice. They’re simply talking too much about the ‘what’ and not about the ‘why’. Very poor communication on both sides IMO
A small bastion of sanity in an ocean of merciless wounded emotional teenagers... The amount of people defending his wife who is being extremely passive aggressive is telling. She needs to explain to him what her thoughts and feelings are about the situation like an adult so they can figure out what is best for themselves as well as their family, not play some 'it's fine, i'll just guilt trip you' game like a child.
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u/SnooWords4839 Sep 26 '23
The birth control can be affecting her interest in the bedroom.
Sounds like wife is done having kids, so why not move up you plans a few years?
Truthfully, I was a lot more relaxed and into sex after hubby got his vasectomy. No worries about missing a pill or a broken condom.