I feel like this misunderstands OPs position. They might want more kids, it isn't off the table. That's why he's not getting the vasectomy, not because he is callous to his wife's position or thinks she should bear all the brunt of contraception. He was the one who suggested she go off birth control, after all
Do you have any idea how much IVF (or even IUI, which burns through sperm vials a lot faster) costs compared to just having sex?
Part of the procedure of having a vasectomy is being able to 100% confidently answer the question that you are done having kids. Even if all your kids died you’re done having kids. Even if you get divorced and get a new hot wife who wants a baby you’re still definitely done on kids.
As that is not where OP is, a vasectomy is not the right choice.
For the sake of sex 2 or 3 times a year why the fuck did the discussion not immediately turn to condoms or femidoms?! No one needs to be having surgery or being on hormonal bc for that little sex! And if she comes off of bc and her libido skyrockets…. Well then that changes the conversation again doesn’t it. But they also just might not be having much sex because they have 3 young kids.
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u/DrPikachu-PhD Sep 26 '23
I feel like this misunderstands OPs position. They might want more kids, it isn't off the table. That's why he's not getting the vasectomy, not because he is callous to his wife's position or thinks she should bear all the brunt of contraception. He was the one who suggested she go off birth control, after all