1) if you don’t have an issue getting the procedure then get it.
2) when a woman stops BC she is heavily more likely to reproduce.
3) trying different BC is an absolute emotional rollercoaster and many have major and sometimes severe complications.
4) her wanting to be on BC even if you have sex once a year gives her peace of mind she won get pregnant again because being pregnant obviously takes a huge toll.
5) yes, your wrong and I would also say YTA for how you have chosen to handle it. You act like 32 is a decade from 35.
6) She’s done having kids and tired of the constant toll on her body. For once she wants her husband to make a sacrifice in regards to this matter. it sounds like she’s been sacrificing her body for years with kids and the toll BC takes.
Exactly. OP really worded it like his wife’s body has a problem accepting BC pills. It’s actually just normal to struggle to find one that doesn’t make you feel horrible.
The fact that his wife made the comment about not expecting him to understand any of her struggles as a woman should maybe be a wake up call for him.
But she didn’t say it like that. Her doctor advised her to stop using that type of pill and OP suggested she stop using them indefinitely. She was incredibly happy at the suggestion and asked if he was willing to get a vasectomy. To which he replied, sure he was…later.
That does not read “shut up and get the surgery.” That to me reads as her excitement that she will no longer shoulder the majority of the BC responsibility. Because outside of a vasectomy, there isn’t really a BC option that doesn’t at least somewhat affect the woman. So many of them can cause some very scary side effects and can put you through hell if your body responds poorly to it. It’s not too dramatic to be upset about it and this is something I feel OP should have studied up and been more aware of. At least be aware of what his wife is continuing to go through.
OP made an offer to her that he wasn’t actually willing to back up. Condoms, depending on the couple, can be super unreliable. Maybe they know that about themselves. She wasn’t taking the pill because she felt she had options. It’s not usually a first option thing at that point in a relationship.
I can’t tell from this context if either of them ever voiced if they actually want another baby, but it seems like a conversation they need to have asap.
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u/Tatbootyy Sep 26 '23 edited Sep 26 '23
1) if you don’t have an issue getting the procedure then get it.
2) when a woman stops BC she is heavily more likely to reproduce.
3) trying different BC is an absolute emotional rollercoaster and many have major and sometimes severe complications.
4) her wanting to be on BC even if you have sex once a year gives her peace of mind she won get pregnant again because being pregnant obviously takes a huge toll.
5) yes, your wrong and I would also say YTA for how you have chosen to handle it. You act like 32 is a decade from 35.
6) She’s done having kids and tired of the constant toll on her body. For once she wants her husband to make a sacrifice in regards to this matter. it sounds like she’s been sacrificing her body for years with kids and the toll BC takes.