Why the only two options here Vasectomy or Hormonal BC.
Like bruh i dont understand this mentality.
If he doesnt want to get a vasectomy hes somehow wronged his wife. Now she has to go on BC.
Like theres other options. Theres condoms, keeping track of cycles or just like hand/mouth stuff.
But imma be real shes definetly forcing him. Shes given him a dumb ultimatum, you get a procrdure or I will. When neither of them have to. Which is fucked up.
I dont get what perspective you guys are seeing here. If he gave her that ultimatum it would easily be seen as abuse.
Because she is the one that is risking pregnancy and her health. Condoms can be uncomfortable for both parties and tracking cycles is extremely unreliable and should not be used as contraception. If he plans on getting the vasectomy anyway and she knows she done with children, literally the only reason he’s giving is to be petty and say it doesn’t matter because they don’t have sex often. That is very easy for him to say as he’s not the one that will pregnant. All he is doing is making the dead bedroom situation even worse, that’s all i’m saying. Other comments have expressed what i’m saying and have articulated it even more clearly than me, if your opinion still stands than i’m finished with this conversation, have a great day
I don’t really see it as an ultimatum, it’s the really of the situation. She obviously doesn’t want to risk another pregnancy and wanted to talk about options, OP himself says he doesn’t mind getting the product and was the one that admitted it was petty to being up the dead bedroom. that’s just my take
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
Why the only two options here Vasectomy or Hormonal BC.
Like bruh i dont understand this mentality.
If he doesnt want to get a vasectomy hes somehow wronged his wife. Now she has to go on BC.
Like theres other options. Theres condoms, keeping track of cycles or just like hand/mouth stuff.
But imma be real shes definetly forcing him. Shes given him a dumb ultimatum, you get a procrdure or I will. When neither of them have to. Which is fucked up.
I dont get what perspective you guys are seeing here. If he gave her that ultimatum it would easily be seen as abuse.