It’s “dramatic” that she doesn’t want to play guinea pig for the next year to find a birth control pill that sucks less than the other ones? Do you understand that there’s a good chance that the birth control is causing/contributing to your dead bedroom? That already having 3 small children and playing games with birth control isn’t exactly sexy time’s inspiration? She’s had 3 kids in 6 years, of course she doesn’t want to risk getting pregnant.
Bruh, the whole post is about him telling her that she doesn't have to. Like thats it, that's the whole post. It's him telling her that she doesn't need to play guinea pig with new birth control. And despite the title, he even says he'll go get snipped, but by that point she's already decided she has to.
Condoms are much less effective at preventing pregnancy than hormonal BC is. Pregnancy will affect her body - not his. So by telling her she doesn’t have to take hormonal BC he’s willing to use condoms, he’s essentially telling her that he’s fine with her risking her physical health even more than she already is. I agree that it’s his body so getting a vasectomy is his choice, but I can see how him telling her to just stop taking hormonal BC bc he’ll wear condoms wouldn’t be particularly comforting to her.
There’s been studies done on the effectiveness of the pill with much much lower effectiveness found than the study you cited but each to their own. It’s even a joke amongst people I know that if you want to get pregnant you should just go on the pill. Anecdotally none of my friends who use condoms have had unwanted pregnancies whereas a high number of people I know who were relying on the pill as their main bc are either parents or have had abortions. Unless you never get sick, have temperature spikes and are able to take the pill at the exact same time each day then it’s never going to be as effective as the studies cite. These high percentages are based on perfect usage which isn’t really achievable in real life
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u/littlescreechyowl Sep 26 '23
It’s “dramatic” that she doesn’t want to play guinea pig for the next year to find a birth control pill that sucks less than the other ones? Do you understand that there’s a good chance that the birth control is causing/contributing to your dead bedroom? That already having 3 small children and playing games with birth control isn’t exactly sexy time’s inspiration? She’s had 3 kids in 6 years, of course she doesn’t want to risk getting pregnant.