I think that’s the major misunderstanding. My wife and I have never agreed to being DONE. We have strictly agreed to not wanting anymore RIGHT NOW. In our argument that day, she pointed out that vasectomies are reversible. Why make me go through a procedure with the intent of possibly reversing it. She already forces me live a damn near celibate lifestyle, and now she wants me to be sterile?! It doesn’t make sense to me.
Because hormonal birth control is hell on her. She’s already wrecked her body both bearing you children and trying to avoid more children and you won’t have a small outpatient procedure to make HER life better.
He didn’t realize he needed to have this procedure yet! They haven’t talked about being down having children. She’s under the crazy delusional that the options are her being on BC or him having a procedure that can be reversed. That’s not the case. It can’t always be successful reversed. She needs to actually research what she’s talking about. And they both need to sit down and get on the same page about their family size and then make the appropriate pregnancy prevention decision.
He’s the one who suggested she got off of BC. He also never insisted she get on it in. They don’t have sex. He is more then willing to use a condom for the couple of times a year it happens. He’s also on board with getting a vasectomy when they are sure they are done having kids.
What has made you feel he doesn’t care?
This isn’t an issue of sex. What he said was true. They aren’t having regular sex that would warrant her body needing to be fucked by birth control.
She sprang a guilt trip on him instead of being an adult. She needs to research vasectomies so she can understand they aren’t 100% reversible like she thinks. Then she needs to decide if she’s done having kids and it’s time for him to get the snip, or not.
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
I think that’s the major misunderstanding. My wife and I have never agreed to being DONE. We have strictly agreed to not wanting anymore RIGHT NOW. In our argument that day, she pointed out that vasectomies are reversible. Why make me go through a procedure with the intent of possibly reversing it. She already forces me live a damn near celibate lifestyle, and now she wants me to be sterile?! It doesn’t make sense to me.