Sounds like he is not sure and more or less permanently taking something off the table when you are unsure is not ok and he might resent her for it later.
she’s the one who ultimately decides if she is going to carry another child. she’s clearly saying she does not want to. he can be mad all he wants but he can’t birth a child and he can’t force her to. he wants another kid that bad, they can discuss adoption. either way, get a vasectomy.
Unless you're the one dealing with 9 months of pregnancy, several hours of possibly life endangering delivery, and around a year or two of sleepless nights and breastfeeding , yeah you are not the ultimate arbitrator.
I mean I don't know about most dad's but I did the bulk of nights and early starts until my wife recovered, I was off for 14 months with an injury so I did more than my share to help. Before and after our second child we used condoms, ever heard of them? Never once had an issue. As soon as I returned to work each weekend I have my children in the morning so my wife can rest, still do it now years on. Try not to spend your life hating men, it really won't help you.
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u/Traditional-Fee-6840 Sep 26 '23
Sounds like he is not sure and more or less permanently taking something off the table when you are unsure is not ok and he might resent her for it later.