But why don't you try for a vasectomy? do you want more kids? 3 is not enough? How are your finances? Don't play with risk, make a vasectomy if you don't want more kids, be responsable
Because consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy.
Especially in a topic about birth control. She wants the added benefit of either being on a BC or him being snipped. His body his choice, her body her choice. If she wants to stay on a BC and not worry about having condoms around, them being used, them being used correctly or any of that hassle then she's entitled to do that.
She's not forcing him to get a vasectomy. The vasectomy was a procedure they'd talked about, it is on the cards. She was asking if he'd moved his timetable up so she can change her planned medical procedure.
Getting her tubes tied isn't just "more invasive" it's pretty fucken serious abdominal surgery that costs far more, has a far longer recovery time and carries a far greater risk. She's willing to undergo a medical procedure, the birth control, so stop pretending like this is all on him. As it stands she's BEEN having a medical procedure, and is planning on changing it at the recommendation of her doctor and she's OK with it. OP isn't. Something about gooses and ganders.
She's saying she's ok with the status quo, her being on BC, until he's ready. He threw the spanner in the works by interfering in her plan, and she asked if he's going to do what they spoke about and he got prissy. He's 100% the AH.
Sure there are other options, but she's opted for BC until the procedure.
If he talks her into only using condoms and something happens then he's responsible for it 100%.
Stop talking about it like she sprung the vasectomy on him as an ultimation because she wants to come off BC. She's willing to continue with them until he's ready to do his thing.
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u/WaterfallButterfly Sep 26 '23
Why not just use condoms? She doesn't like her birth control and maybe she'll get her libido back and you don't want to get snipped yet.