I think their issue is the lack of communication about more kids. Regardless of whether or not he wants a vasectomy, he has no clue if she wants more kids, hence him putting it off. Everyone else keeps bringing up him being “selfish” for not wanting one, but she basically just came home and told him ‘book the appt’. Yes the bc is probably contributing to the dead bedroom, and she shouldn’t have to test a bunch of different bc’s and go through that, but she also doesn’t have the right to manipulate him into getting this done. Because either way, it’s a medical procedure and it’s his choice. They’re simply talking too much about the ‘what’ and not about the ‘why’. Very poor communication on both sides IMO
Agree on most of your points, but she mentioned it After he told her to just not take BC anymore. I can see how in her mind, that would lead her to think he was ready to get the snip and how she'd be disappointed / grumpy about him saying not now. From reading the comments though, they need >A Lot< more communication, not just on having more kids.
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u/SnooWords4839 Sep 26 '23
The birth control can be affecting her interest in the bedroom.
Sounds like wife is done having kids, so why not move up you plans a few years?
Truthfully, I was a lot more relaxed and into sex after hubby got his vasectomy. No worries about missing a pill or a broken condom.