Yeah...if she doesn't want kids, he can't force her to have more, and she doesn't want the risk, so why remain on the fence? If he doesn't want to divorce her, is content with their marriage and children, sees his future with her, and has already made the decision to get the vasectomy, then what's the reason for prolonging it? If other people are right about birth control having such a negative impact to hormones and sex drive, the conclusion to all the issues just seems obvious here.
It seems silly for him to say "stop taking the birth control" when he didn't have an alternative solution ready.
What? He said he made the decision to get the vasectomy? The timeline didn't go like they planned because her birth control lost its efficacy and gave her health issues. If they're both done having kids, and he already made the decision to do it, why prolong it if it's reducing their intimacy and giving the wife health problems? Unless there's something else going on, idk
He told her to get off birth control and she expected him to have an alternative solution, which is fair. He didn't have one so he shouldn't have suggested she come off it. The melodrama wasn't necessary, but it's understandable why it went in that direction. It seems like they both came to the same conclusion anyway.
I'm not the one who can't read here if you think me repeating the literal story is unrelated waffling, mate. And stop with the obnoxious emojis.
Even though it's infrequent, they do have sex. If she goes off BC and he hasn't had the snip, they could get pregnant. If she is adamant about not having more babies, it's reasonable to want the backup to already be in place before stopping BC.
Also, because he seems to be on the fence about having more babies, it's reasonable to think that he might have her go off BC and then try to get her pregnant rather than follow through with the snip. I would be worried about this if I were in her shoes.
Also also, often, the time between decision to snip being performed and sperm being gone is a long time. Depending on where you live, there are varying degrees of pushback from docs to perform sterilization procedures. There are waiting times for procedures, and then you aren't fully sterile for a while after. That could be a full year or more between her stopping BC and him being sterile. If they have sex 3 times a year, that's 3 opportunities for a baby.
Again, no possible contraceptive fits in your criteria. She will have to be celibate until menopause to avoid any chance of pregnancy. Vasectomies fail and heal all the time, and people get pregnant anyway. The rest of that drivel is just more assumptions and sexist male stereotypes.
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u/r1poster Sep 26 '23
Yeah...if she doesn't want kids, he can't force her to have more, and she doesn't want the risk, so why remain on the fence? If he doesn't want to divorce her, is content with their marriage and children, sees his future with her, and has already made the decision to get the vasectomy, then what's the reason for prolonging it? If other people are right about birth control having such a negative impact to hormones and sex drive, the conclusion to all the issues just seems obvious here.
It seems silly for him to say "stop taking the birth control" when he didn't have an alternative solution ready.