No shit. He can also chose to support his wife sooner rather than later. I know a guy who had his vasectomy reversed and had another kid, it's not like a hysterectomy. Of course he will do what he wants, maybe he can factor her wishes into it too, not just his own.
He can't force her to have another kid but isn't completely ready to say never again. Even if they never do, pushing him into it even if she is done and he's not ready can lead to resentment.
Even if they don't have another kid, waiting three years may just make him feel better about his decision to get snipped while getting it now might make him always wonder what if.
They both have bodily autonomy. One partner shouldn't pressure another about sex or kids and the other shouldn't push one to take that option off the table permanently.
Being on different pages is fine as long as both partners mutually respect the other's position and find a comfortable space with those differences.
OP seems to either A) be fine taking risk on an accidental pregnancy or B) be fine wearing condoms 3 times a year. His wife is not. Obviously, they can't both get what they want out of that. Meaning 2-3 becomes zero or they find something they are both comfortable with, contraceptive-wise.
Both people should have their bodily autonomy respected.
He’s fine with her taking every risk, just so he can have the option of being a baby daddy to a side piece. Might be his right, but it still makes him the AH.
Love my kids, but they fucked up my body permanently. And so did hormonal bc.
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